Do you think that a birthing class is needed?

Katrina - posted on 11/12/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I have a class tonight at 630 but i really don't want to waste my time, my husband doesn't understand he thinks its just a waste of time.

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Tammy - posted on 11/12/2009

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We went to all of our classes, but honestly, they didn't help one bit. They showed us a number of videos of different positions to give birth in, and gave alot of info of 'what can go wrong' Personally they weren't helpful for us. I didn't even think of the classes when I was in labour and giving birth.

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Stacey - posted on 11/17/2009

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i didnt take classes with either of my children and for a young mum i had the drs n midwives pressuring me to but never did. i was 19 when i had my 1st child and i found all the info i needed of freinds n family members. like other mums have said it all goes out the window when u go into labour. just remember when the midwife says not to push even tho its hard not to dont. u will no what is right for u when the time comes. eg: positions u would like to be in drugs u want to take if needed relaxation techneacks and etc. it will work out fine for u im sure. but dont woory if u dont make them just ask freinds n family for some helpful advice that they would like to share

Eileen - posted on 11/17/2009

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That is totally up to you two to decide.

some things to consider:

why did you sign up in the first place? did you feel pressured?

do you have a lot of fears/anxiety about the birthing process? caring for a newborn?

are you planning to breastfeed? do you have concerns about that?

You and your husband need to discuss the pros and cons of committing to a class. Determine what is is you expect to get from going. Why is it important to you? Does he understand that you are afraid? that its a way for him to be there for you? that you need him with you, and the class may help him learn how to help you through the process?

If there are other ways for you to get the information needed, explore your options. Is a class necessary or do you have other supports who can help? Is there someone else who will be in the delivery room with you and your husband who maybe has experienced it before?

Chances are, if he thinks its a waste of time, maybe he doesnt know why you need it so much. Maybe he just doesn't know what to expect to learn through it.

Childbirth is a big deal. It can be very firghtening, Tiring. And, a lot of men just don't know how to help us, they cna't stand the thought of seeing us in pain, or going through it, but, if they know HOW to help, they tend to be more understanding.

I've had four natural almost drug and intervention free births, and not one prenatal class. I did, however, read all i could, talk to everyone i knew, and made sure my husband listened to what the other men, and women were telling us about what they've been through. having a midwife helped a lot. Having a Doula was amazing! She was able to tell him things like " she needs you to do this... " shes needs you to be quiet..' lol.. "she needs a drink.. hold it for her" it was incredible the difference it made havin her with us. my husband was so helpful, and understanding because he knew if he idd what she told him, then he was helping me in every way he could.

So... I think i may have rambled a bit.. I was trying to say basically, if he thinks its a waste of time, he doesnt understand how you feel, i mean your true feelings. and he is probably feeling a lot of the same things himself, and is too much a man to admit them. Have a real good , honest, talk about it. Then decide whether to go,or to find other ways to learn what you need to know.

Tania - posted on 11/17/2009

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Didn't you post about natural or not? You should take a natural based class, like HypnoBirthing, if you would like a natural birthing. It gives you tools to use during labor to avoid medication. It also trains your partner to know what is going on and how to handle things. Let's be honest, when you are in labor, thinking clearly will be farthest from your mind. It is good to have a knowledgeable person there who can help you and ward off drug-pusher nurses.

Angie - posted on 11/16/2009

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I went with all three of my deliveries. I would never have been able to have natural deliveries without the classes. Leigh is on the money. It's important for you to know what will be happening to your body throughout your delivery. It's not that much time and believe me, if you pay attention, it is not a waste of time!

Lisa - posted on 11/16/2009

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I found the classes very helpful, it helps you not to be afraid by telling you what to expect. For instance when I lost my mucus plug I just know I would have had a stroke if I didn't know what was happening! The breathing excercises got me through the first stages of labour and the info on drug options helped me make an informed decission when my pain became unmanageable. I would encourage you to stick with them, information can be so comforting when you know whats happening and that your body is doing its natural job.

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I stopped going to mine - although I had been to some with my sister a few years earlier. I actually found that there was more useful information available on the internet. Some people find them useful - some dont. I think its a basically what you make of it..so if you feel its a waste of time then it probably is. Just make sure you do your research as an individual so that you know what your options are - because as much as we would all love to have it planned out before you go in you can never really know hat to expect!

App+7mnejhu - posted on 11/12/2009

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I really think it depends on the class and what kind of birth you are hoping for. I agree that the bradley classes are great and I also thought it was helpful for my husband to hear and practice some techniques that might help me through labor. Many of the hospital classes aren't that great and don't give you enough info besides on how to be a good patient :)

Natasha - posted on 11/12/2009

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personally no, everything went out the window as soon as i went into labour

Pam - posted on 11/12/2009

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Great advice from Leigh. We had an incredibly well-structured class and went as first-time parents. Instructors didn't spend much time on the breathing because they said all the nurses could coach you and you'd forget it anyway; they went over the important stuff so you'd be ready and not nervous, have things decided ahead of time in case of problems. We got to talk with the anesthesiologist and I found it all helpful.

Was surprised no C-section needed for 1st really huge child after 8 hrs labor, and gave birth vaginally w. epidural, which took away pain but made it tough to push. Skipped the classes for 2nd, planned on epidural but got to hospital too late, so had "natural" unexpectedly. Waiting for the doctor to find scrubs, a room, etc., they said "Don't Push!" I said I'd never paid attention to the breathing stuff, so the nurses coached me through & said "You're doing remarkably! Most people aren't able to concentrate at this point!" Baby #2 came out with one push, easier recovery & pushing w/o drugs, but more screaming on my part!

Leigh - posted on 11/12/2009

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What are the stages of labour? What is your birth plan? What the effects of drugs if you choose them on both you & your baby? What happens in different types of deliveries? What if I have to have a c section? I always think knowledge is power. I went to classes for my first son, helped me answer the above questions, went to different ones with the next pregancies, just to get advice about fitting a newborn in with a toddler etc, all helped. It's up to you, but don't go getting the cranks, or feeling 'left out', if you don't understand what is happening by not educating yourself on something that is going to be amazing. If your husband is not supportive, then go without him, it's not like he's going to be giving birth.

Erin - posted on 11/12/2009

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during my first pregnancy i took classes at the hospital where my daughter was born, they gave a tour of labour and dilivery and devoted one class on where to go and what to do when you get to the hospital, that was the most helpful thing i learned in the classes

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I don't think birthing class is needed. I had no difficulties giving birth without birthing class....I did have the epidoural though so I guess if you're not getting that than it might be easier on you to take a birthing class. My doctor was a very good coach telling me when to push and everything....so no birthing class is not needed...it's just all up to what you want to do.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2009

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When I was pregnant I didn't go to one class. I personally felt that it was a waste of time and money. I had no problems in my delivery and they hadn't had to correct my breathing at all.

Rikki - posted on 11/12/2009

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My husband and I wanted to take a birthing class because we are first time parents and know nothing. We took the class where they show you where everything was at the hospital but just couldn't get it together to make it to the birthing class because we were both working and going to school. We totally did just fine without it and did not feel lost at all. We did also talk the breastfeeding class which help alleviate a lot of possible future frustration and that one I would definitely recommend.

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i think it depends on you guys.. i never went to any.. i talked to friends, family, online,, read books.. my births were fine.. i ended up with c's lol..which was fine with me.. i tried vaginal with the first.. didnt go well b/c baby got stressed after epidural and i couldnt do anything lol.. but none the less, he was healthy and so was second, i had planned c with him.. greatest calmest birth lol.. but all in all i dont think its a horrible idea not to go

Chloe - posted on 11/12/2009

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i didnt want to go but my mum said i should, as she was annoyed with herself for not going when she was pregnant. it didnt really help all that much becuase i knew most of the stuff threw my mum and auntys and such, but the labour part of things was really good. and i think ontop of anything else it helped my partner alot more than it helped me. its really a personal choice..

Cheyenne - posted on 11/12/2009

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I never went through one, I just did some research on line. I did just fine. I went through most of my labor at home and didn't go to the doctor until I was 8 cm dilated.

Jane - posted on 11/12/2009

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I never went to any classes either. I had friends and family that told me all I needed to know. It's up to you, but personally I don't think it's worth the bother :)

Melissa - posted on 11/12/2009

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I never went to any kind of birthing class. Just talk to your friends who have been pregnant, although every birth is a different experience. I wouldn't bother, I think it's a waist of time. I would have never even used those breathing excersizes anyways. Best of luck!!

Karla - posted on 11/12/2009

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is this your first baby? If so then I definitely recommend going to classes!! It will help you prepare for the labor. I would say don't go to lamaze classes tho... they kind of are a waste of time. They give you very basic information that most people already know to begin with! If you want to really learn some good information on how to handle natural labor and what to ACTUALLY expect then I recommend taking Bradley classes. They are awesome!! It helped my husband a lot to. He was the same way at first, he thought it was a big waste of time but after the Bradley classes he was really glad we went! Good Luck!

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I went to classes, and honestly it was very much a waste of time and money! We were made to do this, the nurses help you, and you won't give a crap about breathing!

Michelle - posted on 11/12/2009

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lol .. i didn't go to any classes when i was pregnant with my son and im pregnant again and not going to any ,.. dont really see the point .. if you know how to breath then you'll be fine :)

Abbie - posted on 11/12/2009

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Well that depends on your knowledge. We went to ours for like 4 weeks and quit! LOL Serioulsy I never learned anything; even the breathing exercises I thought were silly. When I questioned the teacher on it, I was told they need to be careful on what is talked about since there was a 14 year old in there. I was like WTH!!!! MAYBe if someone had NOT colored coated things she would understand where babies CAME FROM! Anyway off topic, it depends on what you are looking for. They do show some great video we saw a C section video - very cool. I never saw the vaginal birth one we stopped going before. I read every book I could Pregnancy week by week was the best. I wouldn't say its a waste, but if you are knowledgable then it may not be for you. I also found theyreally pushed for the drugged labor vs walking and breathing through the pain. Also ours was not very natural friendly!!

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