doctors appts.

Stacey - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My son had his 1yr checkup in november and i was alittle annoyed that they didnt even check his back, legs or even how he walks. Now he is going to his 15m appt next week and i am wondering if they will do it then or do i have to be a nudgy mom and ask them myself?


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Sarah - posted on 02/05/2010




I think its our job as mom's to ask questions. Even if the doctor noticed him walking and acting fine, dont hesitate to ask anyway. Dont worry about what the doctor will think if you ask the question, just do it. Its your job as a mom to ask every question in the book, no matter how silly, unrealistic, etc., it may seem to someone else... Including a doctor.

Maggie - posted on 02/05/2010




The doctor will check only the basics, that's what they do. They ask if you have concerns at some point (usually) so that's when you bring up anything extra you want them to check. Doctors don't pay that much attention anyway because they are overbooked with too many appointments. They usually only allow 15 minutes between scheduled appointments so if you don't bring something up that is great for them. They can move on to the next one.

Make sure if you do have concerns about walking or your child's spine that you bring it up or call the office to see if you need to bring the child in. Don't be afraid to ask questions that's what the doctor is there for. He works for YOU, you're the customer. You don't walk into a restaurant and expect the waiter to know what you want - treat the doctor the same way!

Stacey - posted on 02/05/2010




I trust me i ask tons of ?'s I'm just concerned with the fact that all they do is check their height, weight, head size, of course heart, ears and mouth. But I just understand why they wouldn't want to see them walk if they are and to check their spines. Idk I just think we pay soo much money for health insurance and the docs get paid a crap load of $$ and all they do is the BASICS!!! So thats the real reason why i am asking to find out if its just my docs office or other people have the same thing go on when they go. I do know I have been seeing my son fall alot more cause his one foot turns in a little bit so that will be the first question i do ask next week. Thanks for all your opinions though =)

Christine - posted on 02/05/2010




I agree with the above poster who said to write down your questions/concerns. I'm a big "be your child's advocate" believer. If you don't ask questions, who will? Also the doctor may be good at what he/she does but they can not read minds. So they may not know what your concern is...
Also I'd reccomend that you look up what you can on your own...
(I should add that I have this opinion because I have cystic fibrosis. I know how important it is to understand my own health care, and my daughters as well)

Kellie - posted on 02/05/2010




I think it is important to not label our motherly behavior. Asking the doctor questions is an important part of your child's healthcare. I ask lots of questions at the doctors about shots, medications, results of any tests, what the doctor is looking for in her ears and throat, what he feels on her abdomen and all that stuff. I don't see this a being nudgy or a hypercondriac, I think i am being a responsible parent. My daughter's one foot was stuck in my womb and it came out very crooked. i told my doctor that i was concerned about it even though he said it wasn't anything to worry about. For insurance purposes i asked him if he wouldn't mind referring us to an orthopedic specialist. He is a great doctor and wasn't even offended that i asked. The orthopedic doctor said the same thing but she suggested some exercises to stretch my daughter's muscles so her foot wouldn't get stuck that way. Ask all the questions you want and if your doc seems annoyed by you, find another.

Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2010




Well I don't know, I don't work in the office setting but my thoughts on this are they may have looked at him walking or standing and saw he looked fine, then there might not be a reason for a through look thru. ..unless you say something. I believe that my son is with me 24/7 not them so unless I say something or ask what about this then they never know. it is their job but then again things get crazy in day to day life and they might have just not thought about it. My advice to you. . .Next time, don't wait for the next appt. assert yourself and say something. . you are not in the wrong when it comes to your kid and if you have a concern and maybe aren't sure about what they are doing speak up, nobody is a mind reader lady ;)) I hope this helps. . .

p.s. when my son went in for his 12 month checkup they did all the checking with a stethiscope and stuff but they didn't check his walking either, although he was up and walking around the 15th chup and every appt they ask me is he walking? is he balanced?

Erin - posted on 02/05/2010




make a list of all of your conserns and things you want checked, then read it to the doc., don't just hand it to him.

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