Does my son's father care for him.

Catherine - posted on 01/27/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son's father and i started our relationship some two years back. Out of that, i became pregnant with my son and also that he was still living with his partner whom he has a 5y/o daughter with. There was nothing secretive about our relationship meaning he would take me to his family and friends to spend time with. When i asked about his situation, he requested i give him some time to sort himself out. After some time I realised it may be a waste of time because since my son was born, he has never helped much in the child's care and welfare.
He brings his daughter around to visit us whom i adore and care for like my own. His partner found out about it and decided he should stop or she will kick him out and cut him off anything that they have together, inlcuding his daughter. After much debate and seeing first hand how she dislikes the fact that he loves his son, i decided to make preparations for child support so he can go back to his family. As much as it hurts, I thought it would be for the best. He told me i was only pushing him away by doing that. So the partner decides to stand up in his defense and tells me i am only wasting my time and that i will never get anything out of it. Since then, he has switched off all connection from my son and I. He has never denied his son. I am still confused because it is not about me but my son, why does he have to listen to her and not stand up for his son's sake?


Jodi - posted on 01/27/2016




We can't answer why he is listening to her and cutting off your son, but time for you to file for custody, visitation and child support. She won't have any say in whether you get child support or not.

And I agree with Michelle, let her keep him. He wasn't a keeper. Sorry, but he's a cheater, and seems like he was never going to change his ways. He will most likely do it to her again. Let them be miserable together while you move on with your life.

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2016




He was never going to leave her for you, he just proved it. She obviously didn't know about you or he had been telling her lies.
Go to court and get custody, visitation and child support sorted out and be the best Mother for your son that you can be.
The other woman knew exactly how to keep him. Let her keep the cheating idiot, he doesn't deserve you.


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