Does your child/SK ever shout out I want my other parent?

Bri - posted on 06/26/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




I know in divorce it can be ugly- however in my fiance situation it has gotten ugly to the point where my SK has came and gone since the beginning of the summer (back in forth to our house and BM's) a little background info....SK lives with us full time BM comes and go as she pleases..

now unfortuatley, SK is shouting I WANT TO TALK TO MY BM!!
Not just once or twice but all the time..

Do you let your child/ SK talk to the other parent whenver he/she wants or just once per day! Advice needed!


Jodi - posted on 06/26/2011




We have had the situation once where my step-son wanted to ccall his mum because he was feeling upset. We have no problem with him calling his mum whenever he chooses. Mind you, he lives with his mum full time and we have him alternate weekends half school holidays, and this was when he was younger. He misses her, which is understandable. My son misses me when he is at his dad's house too, as he only sees his dad 5 times a year. I would be upset if I knew he wanted to talk to me and his dad and his partner wouldn't allow it.

So basically, I think you should just let him call her. I am not sure how old he is or how long since the divorce (you didn't mention it), but it is possibly just a phase he is going through. If he is young and has been seeing his mum more over the summer, it may be confusing for him. It's hard to know. I mean, is it possible he is doing this because he is being asked to do something he doesn't want to do, and this is a way of trying to get out of it? I can see you don't want him calling his mum 3 or 4 times a day, but evidently you are okay with at least once per day, and if it turns out to be twice a day on occasion, I'd just go with it.

But it is worth thinking about why he may be doing it and resolving that if you can.

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