Does your husband give you a Mother's Day gift?

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FeeFee - posted on 05/21/2013

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My hubby doesn't buy me gifts anymore. He did when we first got together. But now he doesn't do dinner, flowers or gifts. He doesn't take my 9 year old shopping for my mothers day gift either. Heck I would be happy with a home made card... :(
Its very disheartning to be honest. I feel like Iam not worthy?
He says he's too busy at work to have time to go shopping. We have been together for 10 years. That anniversary came and went without notice too. *Sigh*

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2013

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Well, Angela, I guess that's your opinion. I love getting a gift from my husband on mother's day to express his appreciation to me as a mother to his child. I don't consider it pointless and stupid. Just as I don't see it as pointless and stupid if he brings home flowers because he knows I've had a tough week at work. If that means every day is an occasion, then so be it. Each to their own. But it is only your opinion that it is pointless and stupid. I get gifts from my kids too, but hubby just likes to make me feel special for what I do as a mother as well. Why? Because he appreciates it. Nothing more, nothing less.

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Shannon - posted on 05/06/2013

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That study is not surprising to me, especially in America, where most men undervalue the worth of their children's' mother! Fortunately for me, my husband is in the 6th % of men who like to give gifts on Mother's Day! For us, its not necessarily about the price tag, yet the thoughtfulness that goes into the gifts! For instance, last year my husband booked an appointment for me at a salon and put a gift card in the card to me for me to get my hair cut and colored. He knew that I hadn't made the time for myself and wasn't feeling great about my appearance. He planned a fun outing with our girls that day, so I could pamper myself. This gift wasn't about me being 'his mommy', but about him recognizing how devoted I am to raising his precious little girls. It was a token of appreciation! He does something thoughtful like that each year. He also takes our girls out to help them pick out a couple of little gifts that he knows I'll appreciate. Some of the other posters are right that mothers shouldn't be celebrated just once a year, but I would like to think that the dads/husbands who actually take the time to give thoughtful gifts on Mother's Day, are most likely thoughtful and giving husbands during most of the year anyway. In turn, my girls and I make Father's Day really special each year for my husband, including gift-giving! We also give gifts to our mothers and fathers on those days as well and we usually plan to see them all at some point!

Cassandra - posted on 05/06/2013

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Well this year the moms and I planned to do something together...regardless of what our husbands decide to do! For me it's about the kids...our anniversary though...Oooh he better not be ANY kind of 6% but the GOOD kind!

Cecilia - posted on 05/06/2013

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Roxanne, I buy my mother-in-law, step-mother-in-law and grandmother-in-law presents. I buy my foster mother a present on top of that. I send my bio mother a card and some pics of the kids and me. As I said the way we do it is to celebrate all "mothers" in your life.

Enna - posted on 05/06/2013

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My husband doesn't really buy me a gift on Mother's Day. He helps the kids buy gifts for me. But guess what, this may be shocking... My mom and my mother-in-law buy me Mother's Day gifts! ( I buy them gifts too). I just bought my sister a Mother's Day gift because it's her first Mother's Day. I'm going to buy my grandma a Mother's Day gift, even though she's not my mother! GASP!

It's a celebration of mothers, not necessarily a celebration of just your own mother.

And guess what else... when Father's Day comes around I will probably buy my mom a Father's Day card! She was a single parent, and was my mother and father in one. I don't seriously think she's my father, but we always laugh when I give her a Father's Day card.

Jenny - posted on 05/06/2013

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My husband is the best...he showers me with gifts throughout the year but on Mothers Day he will work on making it a little more special. I look forward to my birthday and Mothers Day as they are within the same month so we combine them. This year I am getting a Nikon D3100, which will help getting those amazing photos I want of my family. Just in time for Graduation too!!!! http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B...

Jodi - posted on 05/05/2013

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I actually question why this is a debate and why it even really matters to anyone else, and why someone even cares enough to tell other mothers it is "silly and pointless". Because seriously, it is all a matter of opinion. Isn't it the same as saying to someone that allowing your children to believe in the tooth fairy is "stupid"? Right up there as sanctimonious?

Cecilia - posted on 05/05/2013

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there is no "mother of my child" day... so we use mothers day. its a generic holiday and can be celebrated any way someone wishes. I buy him father's day presents so. because once again i dont have a "father of my child" day.

who says if he buys me something he does not still love his mother? Guess what his grandmother gets something also. You're allowed to celebrate all mothers in your life.

I actually am a stickler for money and it being spent on me. But you know what.. having a day for me and being spoiled once a year is okay. My husband even said not to feel bad about how much he spent because i do everything for our family. i deserve a few nice things.

Michelle - posted on 05/05/2013

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My husband buys me flowers at random times throughout the year anyway so I don't expect anything like that on Mother's Day.

Michelle - posted on 05/05/2013

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Well my husband's Mother is on the other side of the world so he will buy me something from our 3yo daughter. He will ring his Mum though. My 2 older children will buy me something from the Mother's Day stall at school.

Julie - posted on 05/05/2013

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It's not,"Mother of your child's day". It's Mother's Day! thats probably why the percentage is low. . does it sound that crazy now? most husbands still have a mom and I hope a relationship with her that he still loves and respects enough to celebrate and give to her on Mother's Day.

Cecilia - posted on 05/04/2013

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My husband does. I figured most did. I helped him pick out mine this year ( beads for my charm bracelet, one to symbolize each child) Last year he got me a new sewing machine because my old one was breaking down and i just dealt with it.

I don't see it as I'm his mother. I see it as I am a very important mother in his life. I went through labor to give him those children and buying me something is fine.

Becky - posted on 05/03/2013

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We go out to brunch at one of my favorite restaurants. Honestly, that's all I want. I don't want anything material on a day that he's "suppose to get me something". To me, it's not much of a surprise when you are expecting something. Besides, I would much rather have my husband give me something, just for the heck of it rather than on a holiday.

Jodi - posted on 05/03/2013

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My husband does - he sees it that I am the mother of one of his children, and I do a lot for the whole family.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/03/2013

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I don't care what a study says. Yeah my husband does. Technically I am not his mother, and don't want to be. But I am the mother of his children. It is all his choice, and I have never asked him for anything.

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