Dying Grandma and visiting

Lisa - posted on 03/16/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My sons grandma is dying. They are going to move her from the hospital to her home with hospice and she may pass on Monday. My fella wants to bring my 6 year old son to visit her.

I'm a bit unsure. I know my son would not want to see super sick and possible not even communiicating. But my boyfriend seems to think its a good idea.

Myself, when my Mom died, once she was done communicating and stuff, I didn't bring Vincent around. I think the healthy memories are a bit more important. Also, Vincent hasn't been particularly close to this Grandma, probably due to her ongoing health problems.

So I want to do the right thing by my son, and my boyfriend.




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Karla - posted on 03/16/2011




I am a nurse and families ask us this often. I would suggest you and your fella go and see her first. If she is communicating and looks OK, then take him in. If it is at all questionable, I would ask your son if he wants to go in. If she looks bad, I wouldn't take him to see her, because as you said, he is not particularly close to her.

Also, I would suggest reading up on how to discuss death with him prior to your visit. It is a hard topic for a 6 yo to handle, but they are smarter than we give them credit for.

Amy - posted on 03/16/2011




My own grandmother passed away a couple years ago I was 27 and very close to her. I insisted on going to see her in the nursing home my mother told me it was unnecessary and that she didn't look good. I went anyway and it's an image I will never forget I wish I had listened to my mom because whenever I think of her it's the image I see.

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