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eight year old won't go to school

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/10/2013

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You see it at the HS level, I see it at Uni...unfortunately it only gets worse.

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2013

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You have no idea how many parents enable the fact that it IS an option...I had a student tell me the other day that her parents let her stay home whenever she chooses because otherwise she tells them to fuck off and that upsets them......the mind boggles (and of course, THAT conversation had to do with her not having done her test and having to make it up at lunch break).

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/10/2013

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Jodi, are we long lost sisters? My philosophy is exactly the same. Everyone has a job. For a kid, it's school!

My response was a little short earlier because I cannot fathom all of these "I can't get my kid to go to school" posts. Its not an option!

Kandy, take control back. Contact the teacher, and the principal of your son's school. Find out what is going on. Generally, if something is going on (at the 1st/2nd grade level especially) the teacher will have an idea about it.

If someone is hassling him, if he's being bullied, if he feels the teacher doesn't like him, whatever, it needs to be addressed. If all else fails, you may need to make time in your day to spend some time observing in the classroom and on the playground to make your own determination about the situation.

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2013

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I was about to ask the same thing - who is the parent? I am not quite understanding why you can't get an 8 year old to go to school.

Anyway, generally a child will refuse to go to school for a reason. Ask your child why. And if your child can't tell you, contact the school and see if there have been any issues. Get to the bottom of the issue and resolve it, but in the meantime, make sure your child realises that choosing not to go to school is not an option. Just like everyone in society has a job (even a SAHM has a "job"), going to school is your child's job. As a job, it comes with responsibilities, just like any other job. Turning up each day and making an effort unless for good reason is one of those responsibilities.

My children have been raised with all of that in mind and I have NEVER had a child truant a class, or take time off without good reason, just like a good employee. Our oldest is 21. Believe me, if you start enabling this behaviour now (which is what you are doing if you allow it), it will only get worse. As a high school teacher, I see it every single day. I also see the results. Nip it in the bud now.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/10/2013

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Who's the parent here? You or your 8 YO?

Why are you not enforcing school attendance?

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