Ever been told you spelled your child's name wrong?

Brooke - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 205 moms have responded )

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My daughter's middle name is Lien (pronounced Lynn, but it's the name of a friend), and I get told all the time that I spelled her name wrong, even her dr. Isn't it my choice on how I spell my daughter's name? I've seen names spelled way weirder then hers. Any one else have this problem?

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Cath - posted on 05/28/2010

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There's a lot of "I can call my kids what I like& spell it how I like" which is fair enough. However it may be wise to think about the consequences for those children with "individual" names, who are often teased at school and later on don't get those job interviews cause the HR people throw the applications from raenbow or blayde straight in the bin!

Shellie - posted on 05/29/2010

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I think it's fine to spell your child's name any way you want, people shouldn't tell you it's wrong. But don't be upset when people get it wrong either, not everyone is privy to your thought process when naming the child.

Yolanda - posted on 05/28/2010

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I think it's more of an issue when the spelling is an actually word, pronounced 'lean' (and it means to have a tax bill be forced on you to pay, so it's not a good thing). I think replacing an 'y' with an 'i' is ok, but when you choose a word many people are familiar with and expect them to pronounce it any differently, you'll have trouble. You'll have trouble when you get to school, teachers teach children the rules of our language, and the 'ien' sound says 'een' not 'in'. There are general pronunciation rules to follow. I met a girl this year who's name was pronounced 'kayleighann' lovely name. But it's spelled K-leen. Yeah, who would know how to pronounce that one?

Lily - posted on 05/29/2010

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Seems like some of the spelling may have come from people that just don't know how to spell..period. (By the way, its spelled...not spelt.)



If you're dead-set on being 'unique' then don't complain when others think it's odd. Brush it off and move on.

Layla - posted on 05/28/2010

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we can spell our kid's names any way we want, but if it's spelled exactly like a common word that already exists in the english language, then don't be surprised by the confusion.

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Jenni - posted on 05/29/2010

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I understand your problem, my oldest daughters name is Cammi and for all her 21years l have been told it should be Camilla and even though l spelled it similar to my name as in Jenni as in 2 n's and i at the end we get all sorts of weird and wonderful spelling. So tell them all too mind their own business politely and that this is your daughters name spelt correctly.

Sharon - posted on 05/29/2010

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Just tell them she is named after your friend and that is how she spells her name.

Lyndsay - posted on 05/29/2010

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My son is Aaron, so theres never been an issue for me. However... I've been an accuser in several situations. I know one girl who named her son Kristain (christian) and another who named her son Haddon (hayden). I'm all for creativity and such, but really, it just looks like you can't spell. And the poor kid has to grow up with that.

Katie - posted on 05/29/2010

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People don't say i have spelt my son's name wrong (Archie), i just have some friends that spell it Artchie..

TIFFANY - posted on 05/29/2010

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MY DAUGHTERS NAME IS JORDIN SPELLED WITH AN I AND MY DR SAYS ITS SUPPOSED TO HAVE AN A AND WRITES IT WITH AN A ALL THE TIME! AND MY LAST NAME IS TOOMER(PRONOUNCED LIKE TUMOR) AND U WOULDNT BELIEVE HOW MUCH MAIL I GET WITH IT SPELLED WRONG. MY SISTERS NAMES ARE TANIEA AND PEOPLE CAN NEVER PRONOUNCE IT ITS PRONOUNCED TA-NEE-A AND MY OTHER SISTER IS TIARRA AND SHE GETS THE SAME THING. AND MY COUSIN SIOBHAN (PRONOUNCED SHAVON)GETS IT THE WORST! YES ITS UR CHIOCE ON HOW U SPELL UR CHILDS NAME JUST BE PREPARED AND PREPARE THEM TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE AND THERE CRITICISMS FOR THE REST OF UR AND THEIR LIVES.

Zoe - posted on 05/29/2010

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My daughters name is Evie but I wish I had spelt it the more unusual way now Yvie

Tevynn - posted on 05/29/2010

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hi thts so tru because i wanted to spell my son name like ayden and sll my friends was like thts not how to spell aiden but i spell it wit the i and not the y because it have different meanings but it my choice how to spell my son's name lol

Cynthia - posted on 05/29/2010

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my lad is called Liam, and even though it's extremely popular here in ireland, you'd be surprised how many different ways i've seen it spelt...you can't win either way, just be happy :)

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2010

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I get the same with my son Aiden. I have been told sniffily by his father's family that it is not Irish now because I have spelled it 'wrong'. Unbelievable!

Jennifer - posted on 05/29/2010

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when my husband and i were naming our son at the hospital and we wanted to hi-finite the last name with his last name first then mine the nurse told us we were doing it wrong, thats what they do in mexico and we do it differently here in the u.s. We had a very big long argument with her and were very upset about it. also, our sons middle name is an old spanish name that you don't hear very often adn people laugh at it often adn think its not a real name, you just have to tell them its your child and you can name them whatever you want and you don't need anyones approval

Stephanie - posted on 05/29/2010

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yeah i get it all the time my son name is alijah and people keep trying to put "e" infront of it and i have to correct them all the time and tell them its an a. For a good year of his life the doctor/nurses used to call him a girl and i had to correct them.

Lindy - posted on 05/29/2010

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OMG if you choose a funny spelling, it's your own dang fault! Do yourself and your child a favor and stick to common/phonetic name spellings, ppl!!!

Kym - posted on 05/29/2010

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I have to say this, I recall reading at one time that the popular thing to around the 1900's was that people would give children names based on their initials spelling something to give them unique names as well. I have relatives with names such as Cotton, Velva, Opal, Ruby, Aldon, Melba and they were born back in the 20's and 30's! This day and age changing the spelling or giving your child a name that is not traditional is not something new....everything is recycled! By the way, my middle name Kay was for my mom and Aunt (whose middle name is spelled Kaye and it was given to her by my Grandfather who worked for the Kaye Cookie company)....I changed my daughter's middle name spelling because Kai in Hawaiian for a girl means Ocean and I love the ocean (we honeymooned on the beach in Florida)...

Laura - posted on 05/29/2010

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how to spell your child's name is completely up to the parents... there are, indeed, many ways to spell most names and I think it's just silly for someone to say it's spelled wrong cause that's not how THEY would have spelled it lol.

Janessa - posted on 05/29/2010

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why do people have to try and be unique all the time? I like traditional names the way there were meant to be spelled. But i will respect those who want to spell their kids names weird for what to be unique lol. I am so glad my son has a traditional name period.

Deana - posted on 05/29/2010

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Dear Brooke,
I have been told that about my name. All of my life. My name is Deana-pronounced Deena. I'm 44 yrs old and deal with it on a daily basis. I've even thought about legally changing the spelling. But people call me Deanna all the time. I've kinda just gotten used to it. If you are my friend you will know how to say my name. I don't know if this helps, but she's your daughter so stick to your guns. She has a beautiful name.

Sara - posted on 05/29/2010

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My daughter's name is Kaytlyn. I've had people tell me I should have spelled it traditional, but no one really ever said I spelled it "wrong". It took me HOURS of writing her name out on paper when I was pregnant to pick the right spelling. I LOVE how we spell it. It's unique.

Lily - posted on 05/29/2010

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It's your choice to spell however you'd like. As cool as people think they are with creative spellings, the child is stuck with that name.

Kate - posted on 05/29/2010

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I just had to reply because this happens to me all the time. My name is Kathleen but I go by Katy, not Katie. I've been called Catty and told that it isn't spelled right. I say Catty is a cat and I didn't spell it wrong you did. Now that I'm married I have to spell my last name also which is Ratliff, no I didn't forget the c in the middle or the e at the end. I just had my daughter in April and I wanted to name her Kincaid (yes I know it's a boy's name but if you look it up it's actually a surname so it doesn't matter), however I thought that spelling was to boyish so I went with Kencaide to make it a little more girly. I made her 2 wk check up and the nurse actually called her a boy. I said nope she's a girl and I'll be there lol.

Susan - posted on 05/29/2010

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My daughter's name is Ann and everyone always wants to put an e at the end. It is your choice how to spell your child's name and people who feel the need to point out how weird your spelling is needs to find something else to do.

Mandy - posted on 05/29/2010

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this just seems 2 b an issue all the time, i have unusal names for my girls, my oldest is elliesha, as in elisha but when i looked up this spellin it was a boys names so i made my own spellin, my youngest is sharlize and i also changed the spellin as it should b charlize, as in the actress charlize theron. we changed it as we wanted olivia for her middle name n our surname is king, so i can guess u no why we changed it. at the end ov the day does it matter how we spell a name as its our child n there names make them who they are

Geraldine - posted on 05/29/2010

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One of the most precious rights as a parent is to be able to name our children what we want, spell it how we choose to and pronounce it however we like. People who make comments are just upset because they were not intellectual enough or hip enough to figure out that you wanted to be different and unique.

Kym - posted on 05/29/2010

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I haven't been told that I spelled my daughter's middle name wrong, I have been told how to pronounce it since I am told that I say it wrong....my middle name is Kay, and I gave her the same middle name but spelled it Kai (a friend of my mom's has the same spelling and it is pronounced Kay) and I have learned to just smile at people and move on to a different subject....

Kristen - posted on 05/29/2010

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All 4 of my children have hard to spell names. When I correct the spelling I get, well if you would have spelled it right then you wouldn't have to correct me. It is very irritating. Just remember why you named your child and don't worry about it. More than the misspelling of their names I hear how beautiful their names are and how people wish they would have used them for their kids. People always think they have to put their two sense in.

Angelia - posted on 05/29/2010

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I get it all the time with my name. It's Angelia (pronounced Angela) but my mom added the i on accident. My son's name is Zek (pronounced Zeke) but my husband liked the shorter version

Camellia - posted on 05/29/2010

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Yes ,but I don't understand why.My son's name is Mica.Too many times people want to add a "H" ,Like its spelled in the Bible.Even though I got the idea from that name I saw and liked the spelling of the rock Mica(both pronounced the same way ),Also when they see the name some think its a girls name because of the dreaded missing "h". So I just ignore and correct them.

Emma - posted on 05/29/2010

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this is ridicoulous!! ignore the stupid ppl.. god its ur daughter and u can spell her names how u like!! no words are actually real its all made up if u think about it!! Just ignore x

Alison - posted on 05/29/2010

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My daughter's name is Orla & I get asked how I spell it, I was surprised one day though when I was asked if it was the english or Irish spelling ( Irish is Orlagh). My name is often being spelt wrong, usually they spell it Allison when it only has one l, although I had a boss that for the 5 yrs I worked at the place she never spelt it right she always spelt it Alicen. My middle name is Rachael & I have the comment made that it is unusual for both the a & e to be in the name.

Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010

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I had to laugh when I seen your post!! I was just told this about a week ago with my daughter! Her name is Shaelynne ( pronounced Shay lynne). I was told it should either be two words or it should be spelled Shealynne. With my Son's also I get it. My dad told me I spelled both Bryce and Devyn wrong, they should be with ' i" and my FIL said we had to switch Josyah and spell it with an "i" also. Because back in the 1800's there was a Josiah in his family and it should be spelled the same for the family tradition ( family tradition when it hasn't been in the family for 200 years? lol)

Everyone mispronounced Devyn and Josyah all the time and I just smile and correct them... they look at thier name again and say it once more than its like it clicks.

If it makes you feel any better my grandma never spelled my name right, and mine is simple... Rebecca or Becky lol. I have alot of letter that she sent me from when I was little up until she passed last year and I had such a good laugh when we counted 15 different ways she spelled them wrong!

Christina - posted on 05/29/2010

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Always!! We decided to drop a "t" at the end of our son's name and people misspell it all the time and my family always tells me we spelled it wrong. It's so annoying. It's not wrong, it's my son's name!

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2010

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I don't quite get the same thing, but people cannot, at first, believe we named our daughter Jewel.

Tracey - posted on 05/29/2010

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I have friends who named their child Oskar, spelled so due to the traditional Irish name of the great grand father. Simply spelling a name incorrectly to make it original or cool is just making trouble for the person (remember that they will grow up), later in life. Don't get me wrong, I think unusual spelling is cool, especially if it gives some connection to family history but not if it is just for kicks. Ref to the mum who was told in the doctors surgery that her kids names were "not white", that's harsh. Unfortunately it is a fact that some groups intentionally use or invent names which identify them with their social peers. There are some new names, like Jodi but they make sense in that anyone with a basic understanding of English could pronounce the name as intended without too much trouble.Jut imagine, every time your child does something in their adult life, the conversation they will have to have. Such as "No no, thats with a y, an i and a silent h, thats right, J a y s i h n." All that, just to order pizza.

Christy - posted on 05/29/2010

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Apparently my name's spelt unusually. People who ask my name seem to know it's not the usual 'Kristy' - not sure why. So I get all kinds of spelling. The weirdest was Khrystie just because it couldn't have been more wrong. I tell them it's 'Christ - Y' (Christ Why hehe). ..but that usually confuses them more. :) Gets a giggle out of some people though.

Lara - posted on 05/29/2010

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How cute! Dont' worry what others think...there's a saying...Great minds talk about ideas, Average minds talk about events and small minded people talk about people. GET real used to people who pick on your choices...be a warrior for your child and let them know sternly you made a choice and let's move onto something of value to talk about.

Mel - posted on 05/29/2010

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One more thing.. I cant think of a girls name my parnter i both liked and not knowin we had both girl and boys names picked.. My partner named her Autumn same spelling as the season and you say it to people and they think you named your kid Awsome!! how can you get that from Autumn i'll never know!

Mel - posted on 05/29/2010

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I knew how you feel.. my name can NEVER be spelt right and it's a pretty easy one.. I found out though when going for my drivers licence that it can be spelt atleast 4 different ways.. my cousin was meant to be rachele but my uncle spelt it rochele and one of my sisters friends was going to be called lauren and the dad didnt know how to spell it so it was put down as lawren.. I dont think it really matters what other people think about how to spell a name you picked.. As long as you like it who cares!

P.S. My mums name is always spelt wrong and her name is Peta and my sister too Marita(propper spelling is maurita)

Deborah - posted on 05/28/2010

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yes i cop it all the time with my son Jaidan everyone i meet tell me i spell it wrong and that it should be Jayden, i think as long as your happy who cares what other people say :-)

Trish - posted on 05/28/2010

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My sons name is Rylee Kye. Pronounced exactly as it's spelled, yet because of the uncommon spelling noone ever spells it correctly. But ince rylee can be either the name of a boy or girl, I thought Rylee would be a mote masculine spelling. I'm so sick of my son being referred ti as she or her. It's ridiculous. And as for his middle name, "Kye" typically spelled "Ky," I added the "e" to keep people from making ky lubricating jelly comments.

Leah - posted on 05/28/2010

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There was a huge debate between my mum and her sister that occurred over the spelling of my daughter's name (Maegan) when she was born. They did not speak for a couple weeks and I was sent a number of emails telling me that her name is spelled incorrectly. It was not of course, my husband and I just took the not so common Welsh and Greek spelling of "Megan", The bottom line is no one has the right to correct you or tell you anything about the name you choose for your baby. I find people who do have nothing better to do with their lives.

Chassidi - posted on 05/28/2010

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I had that problem alot through school. My name's Chassidi but people would pronounce in Cassity or Chastity...and I still have people that tell me my name is spelled odd or weird. I love it.

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I must admit I'm surprised at the depth of feeling here. If your child's name is spelt differently than usual, people WILL make mistakes.You can't expect them to get it right! All you have to do is tell them, politely, that you, as parents, chose to spell it differently. No need to get your knickers in a twist about it!

Of course, it's different if they're rude about it, but on the whole, it's not a huge issue. Just correct them and get on with life.

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010

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Like everyone said dont worry about what ppl say cause if they didnt fuss about the name they would find something else to talk about.My daughters name is spelled calli( said ca-lee usually spelled callie) well i didnt like the extra e. ppl always say call lee or kaylee. My other daughter Caiya forget it. They just fall apart with her name. it is pronounced c-eye-ya. ppl usually say cay-ya. and my sons name cameron pretty common now still gets messed up they say cam-ron. well thats how longs go. spell it the way you want and if anyone has a problem tell them not to use it.

Shanna - posted on 05/28/2010

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My daughters name is Macaela (Makayla) and everyone gets on me for spelling it the way I do. I like it spelled the way it is and that is all that matters.

Maggie - posted on 05/28/2010

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just be glad y'all don't live in Germany. You can't name your kid something that is not on their approved list or use creative spellings. And if you are a resident foreigner, you have to "prove" that a family name is normal in your country of origin. They also will not put Jr. on a birth certificate. FYI - "Adolf" ain't on their list.

Joy - posted on 05/28/2010

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I agree with Cath D in that the spelling and or pronounciation of the child's name can cause problems such as teasing or worse. My children's names are a little different but not enough to hold them back or cause problems for them.

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