Ex is questioning paternity of our son...didn't show up for Christmas..

Mary - posted on 12/25/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My ex boyfriend is now questioning the paternity of our son, who was 2 years old in May. There had never been a question of paternity in the past. This is particularly upsetting because today was Christmas Day and my son's father has not called, come by or sent gifts. Neither has his mother. This is the first time this has happened and I'm not sure what to tell my son. His father has not been in contact at all since Thanksgiving. My relationship with my son's father ended over a year ago but had remained amiable. My sister thinks that my son's father may be reacting to the fact that I am happy in a new relationship. He met my new boyfriend a few months ago and they seemed to hit it off. However, it was a few weeks after meeting that paternity was first questioned. I did not think that was the reason initially because I have made a real effort to be welcoming to my exe's new girlfriend. I just never imagined that my son would be without his father at Christmas. We have a court date scheduled in Feb., where the results of the paternity test will be annouced. There is absolutlely no chance that my son is not exe's, so there is no concern about that for me. The test will speak for itself. I just need advice on how to resolve the holidays. My son is used to spending time with his father and his paternal grandmother on special occasions. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think it would come to this. I have a great new boyfriend, and he is good with my son. He is not my son's father, though. I might add that my ex has been a wonderful father up until now. Any ideas on how I might resolve this enough so that my son gets to spend some time with his father during the holidays? Please help if there is anyone out there that has an ex who has questioned paternity.


Ev - posted on 12/25/2012




I am going to talk about the father seeing his son on holidays and such. When you get to court and find out the paternity, get it set in writing or some sort of visitation roster so that his father is obligated to see the boy. If not that then a custody arrangement.

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