Ex sister in law allowing my 15 yr old to drink alcohol!

Kay - posted on 07/23/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




Today while on Facebook today I see that my ex sister in law made my 15 yr old son an alcohol cake for his birthday while he is visiting his Father out of state over summer break. I know because she posted it on facebook. She made him a Guinness cake and the alcohol does not cook off and the cake will get you drunk if eaten. It has been brought to my attention that this is not the first time and that she allows her own under age child to drink regularly too. I am going to confront her today about it but I'd also like to call her out publicly by responding to her post and I'm asking for help coming up with the perfect thing to say. I want to make it clear to her and everyone else the devastating effects alcohol has on teens and hopefully bring to her attention how appalling her behavior is. Im just so upset by this that I'm at a loss for words. I don't want to go off on an emotional rampage so I am asking for any ideas from other Moms to help me deliver this message intelligently . Thank you


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Dove - posted on 07/23/2016




Is it legal for a parent to give alcohol to their teens in their own home in his father's state?

I... would be furious, but my teens wouldn't have anything to do w/ it anyway. My best advice is to check the legalities, document the evidence, respectfully talk to the father about how you really don't approve, and talk to your son... because he is the one who will be making these life decisions whether you approve or not... so HE is the one that has to choose not to drink or to drink... and to not be an idiot.

Friday morning at about 12:20am we just had a fatal crash less than 10 minutes away from my home involving six teens between the ages of 15 and 18... involving speed and alcohol. One of the 15 year old boys was killed. :(

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/23/2016




Have you considered the point that he was in his father's care, thus making his father the responsible party?

I do have to point out, as well, that the US is one of the more restrictive countries when it come to ages of legality. For example, in Germany, one may consume alcohol with the permission of their parents in the family settings, and are legal to drink in a pub at the age of 16. They actually have very few problems, as they have a very responsible approach. My son didn't have a problem being legal age and consuming when he did a school exchange at the age of 15, and it most certainly didn't harm him.

If you decide to go publically onto someone's FB page to call them out, you will be demonstrating a lack of maturity. Adults discuss, they do not accuse, nor does an adult attempt to publically shame another adult. This won't end well if you go that route.

If you wish, speak to the boy's father. I do have to point out, however, you cannot control what happens on dad's time.

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