Extrememly Busy Mom of 5! Post partum depression? PTSD? What is wrong with me and what can I do?

Rebecca - posted on 11/05/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am the mother of 5 children. With my last pregnancy, I almost miscarried at 5 1/2 weeks and continued to bleed until 14 weeks. Then, at my 19 week ultrasound, they discovered I had complete place previa, so I was placed on bedrest. At 32, weeks, the doctor discovered I had placenta percreta, were my placenta had moved across my uterus and into my bladder. So, my baby had to be taken early at 34 weeks. I had to have hysterectomy, bladder reconstructive surgery and 20 pints of blood. I had a great doctor who called in the best surgeons and had a plan for my delivery, but I knew that there was a good chance that I would not survive the surgery. I was so happy to open my eyes in ICU and learn that my baby was ok in NICU. The OB told me how close I came to death so many times during my 6 hour surgery and told me that had we not used an interventional radiologist or if I cam in in an emergency situation, I would not have survied. I had several other problems during that 2 week hospital stay, including a scarey pulmonary embolism and an allergic reaction to medication. I had to use a catheter for 4 weeks at home. Physically, I am almost completely healed, but emotionally now (6 months later), I am a mess. I am lawyer and my time is stretched thin between my work and my family. I am so tired all of the time and have the feeling that something terrible is going to happen. I lived in fear for 7 months that my son would not make it, then I lived in fear for weeks that I would not be around to raise he and my other 4 children, but we are both doing great! So, why am I such a mess and how can I get my life back and enjoy my blessings? Every day is a struggle. I feel so overwhelmed.


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Laura - posted on 11/05/2010




Please consider going to a counselor/therapist. You can ask your family doctor or OB/GYN for a referal. You had a VERY traumatic event happen to you. Your symptoms sound similar to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as much as they sound like Post-Partum Depression. Only a trained professional can make that diagnosis and provide the neccessary treatment so that you can get back to feeling like yourself again! Please do this right away!

In the meantime, do you have help with the kids? Since you are feeling overwhelmed, you might consider getting some part-time help with them and/or with the housework. This could at least help with the feelings of being overwhelmed, reducing that stress a bit. I hope this helps and the best of luck to you!

Katherine - posted on 11/05/2010




It does sound like PPD. I had it with both of my daughters. BUT you also have A LOT on your plate!!! 5 kids, a full time job, where is hubby?

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