Failing son

Malou - posted on 12/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 12 yr old son thinks im torturing him because im forcing him to do his homework. He has 2 F's and the rest is D's


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Carrie - posted on 12/17/2013




I would first talk to his teacher(s). Is it a not understanding problem? My youngest son is a lot like I am in that he's a very visual person. Sometimes he needs things shown to him then he gets it whereas my husband and older boy prefer to have things explained to them because that's how they process info. If it comes down to a simple refusal to do homework and study then set a routine for homework. My kids know they come home from school, have a snack and do homework. For my oldest (who is 11) that includes daily assignments plus one hour of reading. He is also assigned a monthly book project so he has to work on that for 30 minutes a day till it is done. if he's already feeling "tormented" I would be weary of very strict punishments until you've sussed out the root of the problem. If there is something going on at school that he hasn't told you about grounding him or taking away electronics will just make him feel even worse. If it's just laziness on his part by all means I would make sure there were some consequences but make sure that's all it is before enacting them.

Sheila - posted on 12/16/2013




You are not torturing him. However if he has grades that low I would start by taking things he likes until his grades come up where they should be. Instead of playing with friends he would be studying a couple of hours a day just in the subjects he is having issues with. But The way my parents did it was if I brought home bad grades I got grounded and lost everything until my grades came up to where they wanted them. Which in their case were A's and B's If i got a C they were okay with it but if i got anything lower than that i was grounded and could not do anything else until all my homework was done and they checked it over to make sure i had the right answers. if i didnt then I spent more time doing it right.

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