Family name OOPS

Alyssa - posted on 12/11/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My first son was born well before I met my husband. After a couple months of dating (and meeting his family) I found out my son's name are my brother-in-laws' names. Both of their first names in fact...

We are now expecting our first together and I've done some reading and started picking out names that I like but something that recently came up is whether or not to continue incorporating family names into the rest of our children's names. I don't want the rest of our kids to feel left out of this naming process and I don't want to give the dreaded explanation of "well, he has a different dad..." since my husband is in the process of adopting my son...

Any ideas would be great...


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Kristen - posted on 12/14/2010




I think it is kind of special that even though your son is not the biological son of your husband, he has part of his families name. While your other children will be the biological children of your husband. Maybe it will make him feel special in the future and never left out. (Not to say that you would ever make him feel left out) I know that I always felt different from my other siblings because I had a different dad. Just another way of looking at it. :)

Laura - posted on 12/14/2010




I always include family names as the middle name. I'm on the other foot. My brother's middle name is my dads and my little sis' is my grandma's I'm the only one that doesn't have a family middle name. I've never mentioned it to my parents but it has always kind of bugged me. Maybe no one else in the family cares but the child might feel a little left out and never say anything. I think this compounds a little with me because I'm also the middle child. :)

*edited to add I also think that this is a great way to honor family members.

Louise - posted on 12/14/2010




I gave each of my three children a family name as a middle name. My eldest is named after his grandfather and dad my second is named after his great grandad and grandad and my daughter has my middle name. This pleased everybody!

Iysha - posted on 12/11/2010




I agree with Holly. i dont think it would really be an issue. My middle name is also my Aunt's middle name and was chosen for that reason. My younger sister has a name that is not a name that is in the family and we never thought about it. I personally think there should be a variety of different names in the family....My family has 4 males (my Grandfather, my uncle and his son, and another cousin) named Roy....every time we speak of one of them, we have to ask which one. With different names, you dont have that problem.

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Eh, don't worry about it. My oldest daughter's name is my hubby's name but reversed (first name is middle name and middle name is first name) and the feminine version. My daughter LOVES telling people this, but no one questions why our other daughters don't have family names. I think what really matters is choosing names that you love, and if you love other family names, then use them, but if you love other names don't worry so much about it. I really don't think it will be such an issue, especially since I bet you don't go around aysing "And his name is both my brother-in-law's names..." to everyone you meet. The only people who will know are family and I'm sure they understand :)\

Good luck and congrats! :)

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