Feel hideous and don't feel like having sex

Stacey - posted on 07/12/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hey I'm 23 years old and I have a 2 year old son,I still have quite a bit of baby weight and I feel disgusting and like the most unattractive person in the world! I never feel like having sex but my husband wants it all the time.. he tells me how good I look all the time but I know it isn't true.. How do I make him understand how I feel? We fight about it everyday because I just don't feel like it. help?


Lisamarie - posted on 07/12/2012




Hi, I know how this feels, I put on so much weight with my first child, I felt horrible, fat and ugly. My husband, like yours would tell me how beautiful I was and that he still thought I was sexy but I know that no amount of saying this is going to make you feel it. It's all about SELF-confidence, you need to feel good about yourself. Do you take time out of your day for you? I always take time out for a bit of pampering. If I have time I do my make-up and hair or my nails in the evening when the children are in bed.
This may sound strange but you could also try walking around the house in less clothing, this really helped me become comfortable in my body. Getting used to what it looks like almost naked, now I quite regularly walk around the house in a vest top and knickers.
And if you really feel like you need to do something about it start working out, buy a DVD or just start dancing around your living room, it all helps. Oh and sex helps to lose weight too.
Good luck! :-)

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