fighting siblings

Patty - posted on 04/17/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my 2 youngest fight more than any kids i have seen i dont how to get it under control

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Melita - posted on 04/19/2009

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i had the same problem i think its normal i know it drove me crazy but they are also very close to each other to

Angie - posted on 04/18/2009

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I have two daughters 22 months apart. When my girls are fighting really bad I have them sit together on the couch and hold hands for 15 minutes that is 15 minutes of NICELY sitting holding hands. Then they have to hug each other and tell each other that they love each other. They do not like it but they think twice before fighting

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separation with mine does work...sort of.........until they are in each others company again!!!!

Anne - posted on 04/17/2009

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HI Patty, our daughters are now 20 and 25. However when they were younger they did go through a period of time where they fought a lot. I would in the sumer lock them out of the house on a small SAFE porch that did not have a steps. When they could both agree they would stop fighting they could come in the house.(Before I raise eyebrows, net me assure everyone, we live in a very safe area, and back then it was even safer. If it was too hot I did not use this discipline. In the winter I used the garage with the door down. Again if it was too cold I would not use the garage. I have to tell you about this one time. We were in the basement and our basement is a walk out type. anyway we were cleaning up their toys and other areas of the basement. The girls were 8 and 13 and they were going at it bickering to the point that the second warning came and no results. SOO I made them go out side and stay on the small patio. I stayed where I could see them. All of a sudden I saw that they laughing so hard they were holding on to each other. I was stunned when they opened the door. I had forgotten to lock the door.

Heather - posted on 04/17/2009

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I try to separate my 6 and 9 yr olds when they start fighting. Unfortunately, my 9yr old has ASD so I do not always have time to break it up before it gets out of hand. I also try to spend quality alone time with them on a regular basis, even if it is just holding them in my lap and watching what they want.

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i think my situation is different. i hav 3yr n a 13yr old...n my 13yr old has autism,n has tantrums/outbursts/meltdowns

Jenifer - posted on 04/17/2009

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I think they all do because I feel like a 24/7 referee and very alone until I talk to other Moms. The only tatic I see that works is to seperate them for a day or a certain ammount of time and let them miss and appreciate eachother for awhile. It may only work for a short time but hey, it's better than nothing!

Shirley - posted on 04/17/2009

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My 2 like to play together and entertain each other. So when they fight I threaten to separate them into separate rooms. That usually takes care of the problem. I guess it would depend on their ages too though. Mine are 8 and 10.

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i have th same prob..bt i find that it helps 2 always hav th younger 1 with me..and also 2 do things alone w each child. i still hav th probs,bt at least i knw they are both safe!!!

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