First time mom - Is this normal?

Marley - posted on 03/17/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )





New first time mom here! My baby is 4 months old and was delivered via an unplanned c-section.

I am really struggling here - I think I'm doing pretty well with the mommy side of things (as well as I can, anyway) but what is going on with my body? I am 31 (went to grad school before starting my family) so I realize I won't bounce back as quickly as you 21-year-olds, but this is crazy - I still look 6 months pregnant, my wedding ring still doesn't fit, and I am breastfeeding! I am reading all over the internet that it takes "about 2 months" to return to pre-pregnancy weight but seriously, I am still 50 pounds over mine! I was a size 2-4 before getting pregnant and now I am a 10-12. What is going on?

I am EXHAUSTED, even though my baby is sleeping through the night. I cannot keep my eyes open during the day and all I think about is food. You might say, "well, that explains why you're so fat!" and you're probably right, but my question is, how do I break this cycle? It's like the hunger and exhaustion feed one another. When does this end? I have 3 younger sisters who all bounced back literally within a couple of weeks of giving birth. Everyone I know looks awesome so soon afterward and I still look like a whale. My nephew even asked me if I was pregnant again.

I am so tired that I don't even want to leave the house. I have no desire. All I want to do is hang out in my pajamas, eat, and hold my baby all day. I see my sisters getting out of bed at 5 am when they have newborns and cleaning their houses and making huge meals for their families. Why am I so different?

I firmly believe that this is not all about me - it is about the baby right now, especially because I am feeding her breast milk and so doing anything that would affect my supply is selfish. I want to know though, is this all normal? How do I break out of this? Because from where I'm sitting, I'm the only person I know who is like this. I do not feel depressed, but I am living as if I am a depressed person. If I am unable to figure this out on my own, I am going to see a doctor. Thank you for any advice you might be able to give.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2015




I went through the same exact thing. Some people lose weight while bfing, I sure didn't. Do your best to eat healthy and if weather is nice, take baby on a walk. Eating unhealthy can also make you drained. Also, when breastfeeding, hormones are released and can make you sleepy.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/18/2015




Have yourself evaluated by your physician. This could be PPD, or it could be another condition.

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