First Time Mommy/Child birth with or without Epidural!?

Monica - posted on 09/18/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hi I'm currently 29wks+3days pregnant with my first baby, and I'm having a boy! I'd really like to make my decision of choosing to have an epidural during labor or not to! I'd love to hear reasons why you did, or didn't. Especially if you've gone through labor with and without an epidural. Opinions, and pros&cons on receiving an epidural!?


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If I had it to do over again, I would pass on the epidural.
I was TERRIFIED of the pain, not so much of the contractions, but of feeling myself tear then getting stitched up. I was equally terrified of the enormous needle going into my back, but I trusted that my medical team knew what they were doing.

As it turns out, my baby's heart rate dropped suddenly after only 15 minutes of epidural. They had to turn it off, but there was no time to take it out, so I was bound to the bed with a giant "needle" in my back and didn't even get the benefit of pain relief. (They actually only use the needle to put it in, then they remove the needle and leave a tube in, but the tube felt like a needle to me, and I was afraid to move very much for fear of damaging my spine--you won't damage your spine if it is inserted properly, but it felt like I would, you know?)

All in all, the pain of labor was not that bad, of course it could be that I just had lingering numbness from the epidural--he was born only 3 hours after they turned it off. I felt the tear, but it really didn't hurt much more than a scrape. The doctor used a topical numbing agent before the stitches, so I didn't feel that at all. The contractions hurt, but not a whole lot more than really bad stomach cramps.


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Bethany - posted on 09/19/2013




I asked for an epidural and when the anthasist came I changed my mind I'm so glad I did Its an amazing feeling beat the pain and go natural! :) good luck

Michelle - posted on 09/19/2013




I have had 3 very different labors and births but didn't go an epidural with any of them. I had all 3 of mine in a small hospital so it wasn't routinely offered.
I'm glad though because I didn't want one. Like Jodi, the thought of a huge needle going into my spine far outweighed the pain at the time.
I also had all of mine drug free. My first was 10.5 hours, my 2nd was 50 mins!!! and my 3rd was about 4 hours. I find as long as you listen to your body you can get through it.

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2013




I never had one. It never even crossed my mind. My second birth I also went totally drug free because I didn't like the feeling that gave me. If I did it again (which I won't be), I would definitely go the epidural free and drug free route, not because I'm a martyr, but because I didn't feel it was necessary for me. Besides, the thought of having a needle stuck in my spine freaks me out more than the pain does. I also liked having freedom of movement in my labour. It helped with the progression of labour, and also gave me choices in labour and birthing positions, which I know really helped with not only managing the pain, but with the actual birth itself. I would have felt the epidural would have taken many of my choices away.

But every labour is different. I didn't have to endure hours on end of contractions 2 minutes apart.

Gena - posted on 09/18/2013




I didnt have an epidural,the reason was because i wanted to feel everything and go through it all without epidural. I think its something every woman must choose personaly. I am proud of myself that i did it without but to be honost if i would have a second child i would definatly have an epidural!:-)

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