Freshly separated, met a lovely guy.

Steph - posted on 07/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am in a bit of a situation. My husband and I have separated in March, after I have found out about his love affairs.
We have 2 daughters together, 5 and 2.
3 weeks ago, I went out with my single friends, to have some fun, and I have met a guy, we kissed and he asked for my number, so I gave it to him. We have been texting ever since. We have lots of common interests and he is smart and a lovely person, definitely somebody I would like dating when I am ready. Last weekend, he took me for a dinner and then we had a really lovely time at his place. This Saturday, he is cooking me a dinner.

Now the problem is, that I only went out to have fun and I did not expect to find anybody that I will like, as I feel I am not ready for a relationship. I did not tell him that I have two children and that I am freshly separated. I do not think he will like it, and will probably feel betrayed. Maybe I should just quit this thing all together. Maybe I am dramatizing this too much, it will be only our second date this Saturday. What to do, how to tell him?


Amy - posted on 07/02/2014




You need to be upfront and honest. The longer you wait to tell him the more betrayed he's going to feel if he is actually going to feel that way. He may be ok with it, everyone has a past and if he can't get past that then that's his issue. I would just caution you are newly seperated and don't make any mention of divorce it may be best to wait till you've had some time, but you have every right to go out and enjoy life it is after all just a second date.


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