From being a stay at home mom do you ever start to feel lazy? and feel like your child is bored?

Crystal - posted on 12/08/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )




If so what do you do to turn all this up side?


Nikitia - posted on 12/08/2009




I dont' think you feel lazy, I think you feel more un or underappreciated if thats a word. I often feel like I could be doing more either around the house or with the kids. If I do more around the house the kids are neglected, to a certain degree and if I do more with the kids the house is neglected. I think it is a balancing act between housework, kids, and don't forget yourself. Often times stay at home moms forget about making themselves look good, exercise, eat right, and even get out of the house for some "me" time away from the husband and kids. I know because i feel this way 24/7. I wake up some days and think this can't be it??

Joanna - posted on 03/28/2013




i am a stay at home mom of three children not any of whom are in school yet. my question is we dont have much money budget is tight. how do i find things to do with the kiddos that can help them learn and make it fun and alzi craft ideas for the not so crafty woman.

Renae - posted on 12/15/2009




I think the thing is to keep busy. If you have a couple of baby activities to attend each week plus cleaning, groceries and laundry you wont have time to feel lazy (barely have time to walk the poor dog!). I have playgroup, baby swimming and gymbaroo each week. I have just started this new cleaning plan were I clean 1 room top to bottom each day so all rooms get done in a week and the housework never builds up, it seems to be working! Add looking after baby and having playtime with him several times each day and the day whips past so fast.

Kristal - posted on 12/15/2009




Lazy? Stay at home moms have the chance to get things done that working moms don't. Volunteer at your child's classroom(s), be a girl/boy scout leader or leader of some other organization for your kids or for yourself. Go to the park, museum, zoo, or other nearby places that are oriented to kids/learning. Make sure to make time for yourself (and daddy) too. Learn how to/start sewing, knitting, crocheting, cross stitch or other crafty type activities that can be put down when needed to tend to the kids. Kids love to do crafts as well: coloring, painting, clay molding, etc.

Too much time alone with the kids tends to cause stay at home moms to lose their own identities because they focus so much time on their kids. Remember that moms get to be people too.

Kelsey - posted on 12/08/2009




I feel like that alot too. A good schedule will help. The hardest part is having the motivation/energy to follow through with the new schedule.

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Christie - posted on 12/15/2009




Hi. Im a stay at home mom and its hard to stay motivated some times. So I started my own business from home. I love what I do. It gives me something to do during the day and then I take my daughter out to pay dates, tot romp and so on as a break and dont feel lazy. So I get the best of both worlds, I am earning and income, but also get to be home with my daughter.

Danielle - posted on 12/15/2009




Yeah, I went through a lazy stage...does your baby sleep through the night yet? I think that had a lot to do with why I got lazy. My son still isn't sleeping through (almost 8 months) but I got rid of the laziness by going to bed super early one night so that when the morning came I was nice and refreshed...I got up and started cleaning right away. I kind of have a schedule and I think that helps. And I take a nap during my son's morning nap so that I have enough energy to keep going throughout the day.

Kerry - posted on 12/15/2009




I don't know if I'd call it lazy... but I do understand. Being a SAHM has been a bit of an adjustment for me, and it feels crazy to be at home, but the house isn't always spotless. Hmmm... wonder why? ;-)

Finding a good balance between caring for the child and keeping house helps knock out the feeling lazy part, but may have a hand in increasing boredom as it feels sometimes as if it's same s#!t different day. If you can find ways to get out of the house, either running errands, going for a walk, to the park, etc., that can go a LONG way in helping.

Now, I'm off to deal with a toddler in need of attention... it never ends. :)

Good luck to all of us! :)

Clara - posted on 12/15/2009




I feel your pain, I work mornings only, so I am home at 1, but we have a full time housekeeper/nanny.

My little one is not walking yet, but refuses to sit in her pram, so cant really go for walks. I am also concerned that she is bored, she doesnt want to play with any of her toys and dont know what do to keep her entertained or stimulated.

She is up at 5 in the mornings, so on week-ends its even harder ??

Brandi - posted on 12/08/2009




I sometimes feel lazy because the house always seems to look a wreck and i usually take a nap or at least relax while the kids are napping. I guess I feel like I SHOULD be cleaning or, but geez the only time the house is quiet is when the kids are asleep. My kids don't really ever seem to be bored, but my daughter is 3 and my hubby and I have talked about enrolling her into some kind of group activity (outside of preschool) maybe gymnastics or dance or like that. As for feeling a little better about myself, I try to make sure that I at least get all the dishes washed up and the living room straightened up in the day and if there is a lot of laundry i try to get that done. Also, I make sure that I have supper ready for when my husband gets home from work. These things all make me feel a little more useful. I still struggle with trying to find some time away from the house and kids. My mother has been taking me out on the weekends (usually saturday afternoon) to a craft fair or yard sales or shopping or like that for a couple of hours just to get me away from the house for a little while, but I usually feel like I should have spent that time with my family, so I agree with one of the other posts that being a stay home mom is about finding a balance that works for you. I have been a stay home mom for 2 years and I'm just starting to even all the parts of my life out (still not there yet, though). Hang tight. and try to get into a routine *that was mentioned before, too i think, but it does really help*

Peita - posted on 12/08/2009




My children are 6, 3 1/2 and 6 weeks old, these are some of the things we do once house work is done to cure boredom: craft, playdough, play outside, go to the park, go for a walk, limited t.v and computer game time, have naps together, invite friends for morning tea, go out for morning tea, go to play mazes,read stories, music time, cooking together, there is so much to do! My 3 1/2 yo also likes to help me with the house work which keeps her busy for ages! We still have our lazy days, it is too hard with a new born to go out or be busy every day!!! If you child is still only very young, then do things that you are interested in while they sleep! I don't call myself lazy, I figure I get up during the night with kids, do school drop offs, clean the house and run errands, I think I deserve to hang out at home on occassion and not do much!

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I feel like that a lot. I found a friend who's a SAHM with a child the same age as mine, and we do a LOT of playdates. The kids amuse each other, and we get to have time to talk to another adult. Otherwise... My son actually amuses himself pretty well, so I can't help too much. He's always been really independant. But I still feel like I should do more. My mom says she had the same problem when I was little, and my friend has the same problem with her daughter.

One thing we had a lot of fun with, though, is cooking. He only just turned 2, but he helped me make cookies - he held the measuring cups while I poured and explained, and he got to dump ingredients in the bowl. And best, when they were done, he got to eat oatmeal cookies. Now I'm looking for other things for him to help with, since I can't make cookies every night.

Lizelle - posted on 12/08/2009




I've felt that way plenty of times but waited until they could walk, hired a babysitter and gave music lessons from home. Later I started studying extramurally so that I could still be home with them but I didn't feel so lazy and useless anymore. Hope this helps.

Kellianne - posted on 12/08/2009




Once ur child has alot of stimulation like good toys they enjoy etc and people they're usually happy.. And feeling lazy is normal DR Phil stated a FACT that stay at home moms have they equivalent of TWO full time jobs so nobody can blame us for feeling lazy at times :D

Stephanie - posted on 12/08/2009




I feel lazy and have no ambition to do anything around the house. But my little one is very active and seems to entertain himself most of the time. I agree though that taking a walk helps. I also find getting out of the house for any reason helps. I tend to make my errands last longer then they have to just to keep occupied!

Stina - posted on 12/08/2009




I don't generally feel like the kids are bored- they keep each other well occupied. I do get into a mood to just be lazy though (see me on the computor?) but for the first large portion of my day, I did a craft/made lunch/laundry/took care of a friends child in addition to my three/played with them/read stories etc. Then my 2nd child refused to nap and woke up the baby so I didn't get to rest before big brother returned. So I don't feel too guilty taking a little time out while the older two have a snack and the baby works on her scooting/crawling nearby.

Basically, when I feel lazy, I remind myself of all the things I have done. It's important to rest.

Rebecca - posted on 12/08/2009




My son is 2yrs and i find the routine i have in pace helps a lot. He gets up wtih daddy at 7am and eats with him and then before my husband leavesf ro work he will wake me up. My son will eatiher relax on the couch for a bit until snack time, cuddle with me and watch a cartoon or we will color...depends on the weather really. Snack time is at 10am, lunch at noon another snakc at 2pm supper at 5pm when hubby gets home bath at 7 snack after story bed. Anytime in between we try to fill with crafts, coloring, going outside to play or for a walk, visit my husband at work. The crafts we do are season i went to the dolloar store adn bought some christmas bulbs, white glue, sparkles and ribbon. Tie the ribbon through the hook area make a design with the white glue on the bulb then sprinkle some glitter on it. Also you can make rhendeer out of candy canes. Get some pipe cleaners from the dollar store, some googly eyes and some candy canes. Glue the eyes on by the top part of the candy cane and wrap the pipe cleaner around the bend part and twist and then you can twirl the ends of the pipe cleaner and then hang it on the tree. If your son is too young for these get some stickers and some foam shapes and jsut let him sticker them. We also use pompoms and foam letters for the younger kids for this one.

Good luck:)

Savannah - posted on 12/08/2009




I feel that way a lot of the time, too. Especially after just having a baby and can't do too much with my older two. I don't know what to do about it yet either..

Chelsay - posted on 12/08/2009




Yes all the time i have no idea how to help that i havent figured it out yet.... but it does help when i start a new project and get out of the house for awhile

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