Getting my 4 year old to sleep...without a fight???

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My four year old daughter is pretty good until it gets to be bed time. we go through the routine of winding down, taking baths, reading books at a consistant time every night during the week. But once I say that I need to leave and she can read books in bed or color or play with her stuffed animals, the fighter comes out in here. I'm about to lose my mind!! I need some new ideas cause I have resorted to don't have to say it, I feel the guilt. Anyone? I'm tired of the fighting everynight!!


Therese - posted on 12/30/2008




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Hilary - posted on 12/29/2008




I had that problem about a year ago (she is now 5 1/2 years old) and now bedtime is a piece of cake. My friend told me to take away what really matters to her (for her it was dresses to school). I read 2 books outside of her room and say good night. Then her dad walks her into her room, turns on her piano music, sings 2 songs and turns out the light. The first time she got out she lost her dress for the next day. The second time it was for a week. When I followed through with her "punishment" she knew I meant business. This didn't go on for more than a couple of weeks. My husband has to walk her to bed because she seems to con me into laying with her because I love to cuddle!

Debra - posted on 12/29/2008




Please check out (or web search DR Bryan Post) and read about the stress mode: "All negative behaviors come from a state of stress." She is likely afraid of something so during the day when she is calm, talk about things she might be afraid of and come up with plans to deal with fear/stress (plans will not work the first time, need to consistantly keep trying. Keep the routine and then baby steps for the rest. Ex) Start by laying on bed her, then move to floor next to bed, then few steps away standing. Maybe add a massage to the routine. Take many deep breaths and enjoy this time that she wants you around (i have a 4 yr old; it is taxing).

Shannon - posted on 12/29/2008




Been there!!! My kids are 4,3, and 1 and my 4 year old really tested us at naptime and I finally found something that works! My son LOVES his 4 wheeler so the rule became that if he acted up at bed time he would lose it the next day. Find something she loves and take it away! Now it is a game, whoever gets in bed first gets a big trophy which is my arm. (use your imagination) we haven't had much issues since. the key is you have to follow through and remind her why she is losing it!

Cammie - posted on 12/29/2008




She may have a sleeping disorder like my youngest does. The only thing that works for my daughter is 2 melatonin pills each night. It's a natural way to give her that edge that she's needing in order to figure out night is night and it's ok to get the appropriate rest needed.

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