Giving 15 year old Daughter privacy at the doctors??

Clair - posted on 08/27/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




My Mother was very rude and patronising towards me the other when I told her about my daughter going into the doctors room alone.

My daughter is 15 and very independant. She will be 16 in 4 months. I have always respected that there are somethings a young woman just doesnt want ot talk about in front of her when she started having hip problems again (she was born with a dislocated hip as a baby) I allowed her to go into the room on her own as she said she wanted to talk to the doctor on her own.

I agreed because I thought that if she has been sexually active - which is not unusual at her age despite it turning my stomach! ThenI should let her speak tothe doctot in confidence. Especially because if something had happened the doctor needs to know the truth which may not feel able to express with me sat right next to her!

I have told my daughter I will be attending the follow ups with her.

My mother made me feel awful and the way she spoke to me was terrible. She said I wasnt there for her when I should have been - I was in the waiting room with my other children.

What do other parents of teenage girls think??


Jodi - posted on 08/27/2015




My son is 17, and he has been going in to the doctor's room alone for a few years. Often what happens is that if it is something the doctor needs to talk to me about, he will then come out and get me. I don't see it as a big deal. They need to learn how to do these things on their own - they don't just magically become adults at 18 who know how to do everything on their own. At least you were there in the waiting room if you were needed.

Continue to give your daughter the privacy.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/27/2015




Well, the easiest solution, don't tell your mother these kinds of things any longer. You are the mother, and you have to do what you think is right. It is perfectly fine that your daughter had this appointment solo. I think that is a wonderful way to show trust. If there was anything major, the doctor would have talked with you about it.

Raelene - posted on 08/27/2015




Ah, Mothers, got to love them. Honestly, they tell us things were different in their day, no sex before marriage. I don't have a daughter but I believe you are right in letting her have her privacy, she is not a baby but a young adult, and I bet it will be turning your stomach worrying that this maybe the case(sex), but it may not be, she just might be trying to show her independence. But definitely try and keep an open communication with her.


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