Grandson feels slighted...

Dani - posted on 08/04/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My sister continues to leave my grandson (who is autistic, but highly functionin) out of family activities involving all of the children in our family. This hurts me deeply. My older sister and I have a strained relationship and even still I include her children in my life's celebrations, etc...

I've been told to cut her off and remove her from my life, it's easy to say, but harder to do. We are all we have due to the deaths of our father and recent deaths of brother and mother. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated, this issue is eatin me alive, not only is it hurtful to me and my grandson, I resent her and it is makin me very angry.


Ev - posted on 08/04/2013




You need to have a talk with her and find out what her reasons are for having this child stay out of the family functions she has going on. I would tell her how hurtful it is to both of you and especially him as he can not see his cousins to play with. He is a child for "Pete's Sake". Is she afraid of his Autism? Does she not understand it? How autistic is he? Does his symptoms cause chaos when he is there? Does it make the others uncomfortable? You need to ask these questions and more to find your answer. A lot of people; even now, find it hard to address this problem and deal with it. They do not understand much and because someone is different will not include them in family activities or those set up by other friends or aquaintances. Try to do this in a neutral way to get to the bottom of the problem.

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