Happy Home is Now Empty Nest Depression

Sybil - posted on 09/17/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have been "relieved"... I guess that's the emotion ...to have read of other mother's struggles on here dealing with empty nest syndrome. I have tears falling down my face at this moment as I've read some of the other mother's feelings- they so remarkably mimic my own. My 2 children both graduated from college and have been living out of state for a few years. Our son is 28 and daughter is 26. I cry almost every day, at any given time from any random thought. Some days are just so very hard. The greatest joy of my life was meeting their needs...reading stories in bed to them at night, volunteering at their schools, supporting all their sporting events. My life was full and satisfying. They both used to call me every day but are now quite involved with serious relationships...which is of course what we hope for. Both are doing well job wise as well as their relationships. Of course, for this I am thankful. However, it in no way diminishes the very real pain I feel every single day when I can not see them, share their day's news, see their smiles, hear their laughter. I ask myself, I do, what is the purpose of my life? Not in a feel sorry for me way. In a very real way. I have even tried reaching out to some of the neighborhood children, and they like to come by and I do special projects or neat crafts with them. Still, the pain persists. I don't know an answer. I have a wonderful husband, a loving and supportive partner. Still, I find it hard to feel motivated to do anything, to just bother with anything. There was a purpose when my kids were here. I can't find one now.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/17/2015




Your children have been grown and on their own for years. Perhaps its time for you to find new hobbies, volunteer opportunities and other activities like that. Consider being a foster grandparent, volunteering in children's wards at your local hospital, or being a companion for the elderly. These activities can fulfill your need to feel needed and useful. Good luck!

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