Hard time accepting the use of a sperm donor

Christine - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My husband and I talked about us having children shortly after we started dating. We originally thought that it was an issue with me that we couldn't get pregnant. I did 2 rounds of Chlomid and we still couldn't get pregnant. My husband finally did a SA in June and had a bad result. So he did another one in July, with the same result. He has 0 swimmers. We met with a Urologist just last week and found out that my husbands issue is not fixable. We still want children. We have ruled out adoption because I feel like I will have a bonding issue since I have wanted a second child for 10+ years. I have a 13 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I want to experience being pregnant. See I was 15 when I was pregnant with my daughter and her dad has never really been around. I want to share my pregnancy with my husband. My husband has ruled out adoption as well because he wants the joys of seeing me carry his child. So here is the issue... I am having a hard time accepting that we will never have biological children with him. I am really struggling with having to use a donor. Are there any married couples out there that had to use a donor? If so, what have been your experiences? Were they good? Bad? Did your husband ever resent you for essentually having someone elses baby? Do you ever fear that your child will fall in love with someone that could potentially be their half sibling? How do you tell that child that Daddy, really isn't daddy? Do you ever tell them? I am so scared about using a donor but its our only shot at having children. Help please!


~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/10/2012




I just want to say, he will be the daddy. Doesn't matter about biology if he loves the baby. Good luck.

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