Has anyone got ideas on how to get my 3yr boy to wash his hair. I've tried the kids shampoo, having a bath with him ( so he will lay down). Even tried the forceful action. But the second he sees the shampoo or hears the words wash hair... thats it mass tantrum and he runs a mile. If anyone has a good idea would love to hear it. thanks

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Annalize - posted on 01/12/2009

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Buy the shampooing cap at the pharmacy. It's like a round fan with a hole in it and you put it around their heads. It keeps the water and foam from running over their faces and into their ears. It works like a bomb. My children is 2 and 3 and it's a relief to hear no screams.

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I had the same issue with my 2 year old. Suddenly he started getting hysterical at hair washing time - even crying, screaming and managing to climb out the bath in his hysteria. So now I use the following method. We each have a sponge and take it in turns to wet his hair. Then I wash it and he helps me "wash" his hair. I use a kiddies shampoo for no tears etc. Then I take him out the bath and wrap him in a huge towel, lie him back with his head over the tub and rinse his hair like that - like I used to when he was a baby.



Then when we are finished he gets a sticker as a reward.



It works really well and I got the idea from bathing my newborn - saw how calm he was as long as he was wrapped in his towel for hair washing.

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Melissa - posted on 01/12/2009

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Try using those special hair-washing buckets.  My son still gets antsy when we wash his hair, but I remind him that the bucket keeps water out of his eyes.  It can be tricky at first for them to lean back and trust you, but once he sees that it works he might not be so afraid.



 



Here is a picture of the bucket. 



Claire - posted on 01/12/2009

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my little girl hated washing her hair cos of the shampoo going in her eyes, what i do now is get her to hold a sponge above her eyes make a game of it when im rinsing her hair, she enjoys it and the shampoo doesnt get in her eyes it makes it so much easier

K. Lynne - posted on 01/12/2009

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we wipe the shampoo off with a washcloth. Takes longer but he can control it.

Claudine - posted on 01/12/2009

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Quoting Lydia:



Quoting Blythe:

Has anyone got ideas on how to get my 3yr boy to wash his hair. I've tried the kids shampoo, having a bath with him ( so he will lay down). Even tried the forceful action. But the second he sees the shampoo or hears the words wash hair... thats it mass tantrum and he runs a mile. If anyone has a good idea would love to hear it. thanks







I had the same problem when my LO was 2 years old. I think everyone in our neighbourhood thought I'm killing my child around 19h00 every night! I made a chart in his room and put different pictures on lof things he refuses to do ike a child eating food, a child cleaning up, and also a child washing hair. I took him to buy stars and smiley faces and told him that everytime he did one of the things he gets a star. After 10 and some activities 5 stars he gets a smiley face and then a special treat. He stuck his own stars on the chart after every wash.






 






Another things I did was to give him a facecloth to cover his face and eyes. I gave him the option to lay down or sit and tilt his head back. I also got into the bath with him and let him wash my hair, while I'm washing his. I also used a facecloth to wet his hair and not a jug.






I also shaved his hair number 3, wich made everything so much easier!






Good luck. It will pass - my LO now washes his own hair!






HI



Gee, Lydia, this is a real big problem I have with my 4 year old son too. Your words are exactly the same as mine would be. He screams as if you are trying to kill him. I also use the facecloth over his face when washing and try to wash his hair not more than 3 times a week. Haven't tried the board with stars, but sure will.

Sallyann - posted on 01/12/2009

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singing in the rain ,i used a mini watering can   and also the song i hear thunder pitter patter raindrops ,,i know mad but it did help  ,,screams turned to giggles  my 17month old loves it  ,3 yr old getting much better  he  is starting to sit in bath bit more now too

Nate - posted on 01/12/2009

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Right from an early age I always got my two boys used to having water in their eyes/face. Plenty of smiles and re-assurance from me when I would do this. When washing hair, they would be sat upright and I would sing a little rhyme... "look up into the sky, and you wont cry" Then the water goes straight down their backs and nowhere near their face and eyes, especially when rinsing the shampoo.



Remember young children are incredibly sensitive (psychic) to any doubts and fears of their parents.



Hope this helps : )   

Carol - posted on 01/12/2009

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my son is 2 years 3 months and is the same the only way i can get him to wash his hair is to get in bath with him get a plastic cup and let wash my hair and then i say its my turn and he lets me wash his but sometimes he lets me wet hair but not shampoo so i let him put it on his self it makes him feel grown up hope this helps because it can be a nightmare xxx

Mandy - posted on 01/12/2009

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You could try solid shampoo from www.lush.co.uk. Its natural with no nasties, lasts for ages approx 4 months for two kids and my two love it.

Lar - posted on 01/12/2009

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oh my son will also put his toys in the container with some water and dump them over his head by himself to get it wet for me to wash..

Lar - posted on 01/12/2009

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I still have the same prob with my six yr old once in a while. I fill the bath with water and I squirt some antibacterial soap in the water as it is filling (also makes great bubbles for a bubble bath) Then all I do is have my son lay down in the water and rub his head of hair while laying in the water or I will do it while he dumps the soapy water over his head himself. not only is he getting his hair wet, but washing it at the same time. Also I don't have to fight him to wash his body up after playing in the tub of soapy water for awhile all he has to do is rinse off with clean water when the tub has completely drained. if he fights me on the rinsing part I just fill my container I use to rinse him with a few of his bath toys (the softer toys) and warm water. He seems to think it is fuuny when his toys come draining off of the top of his head with the water it as worked every time. My son has very thick hair and the antibacterial soap cleans it wonderfully

Lydia - posted on 01/12/2009

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Quoting Blythe:

Has anyone got ideas on how to get my 3yr boy to wash his hair. I've tried the kids shampoo, having a bath with him ( so he will lay down). Even tried the forceful action. But the second he sees the shampoo or hears the words wash hair... thats it mass tantrum and he runs a mile. If anyone has a good idea would love to hear it. thanks




I had the same problem when my LO was 2 years old. I think everyone in our neighbourhood thought I'm killing my child around 19h00 every night! I made a chart in his room and put different pictures on lof things he refuses to do ike a child eating food, a child cleaning up, and also a child washing hair. I took him to buy stars and smiley faces and told him that everytime he did one of the things he gets a star. After 10 and some activities 5 stars he gets a smiley face and then a special treat. He stuck his own stars on the chart after every wash.



 



Another things I did was to give him a facecloth to cover his face and eyes. I gave him the option to lay down or sit and tilt his head back. I also got into the bath with him and let him wash my hair, while I'm washing his. I also used a facecloth to wet his hair and not a jug.



I also shaved his hair number 3, wich made everything so much easier!



Good luck. It will pass - my LO now washes his own hair!

Christa - posted on 01/12/2009

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My daughter has pretty similar reactions (she's almost three).  Do you have one of those hand-held shower sprayers? I've found the best thing for us to turn on the shower (while holding it in my hand or under the bath water) and then have my daughter look up at me, or the ceiling,  and I hose down her hair very fast.  She had really like hair (like bottom length) and I get it done in under 30 seconds..so a short boy's hair should take no time at all.  She mainly doesn't like getting the water in her eyes, so I'll hand her a hand towel if she's particularly concerned that day so that she can wipe her eyes off if need be.

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