Having a hard time adjusting

Alayna - posted on 06/15/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I live in Indiana with my2young children and my husband left for basic about3months ago. We saw him at graduation briefly and obviously things felt different but new he's even father from home in Texas for ait. I've never been jealous before so this is super new but most of his battle buddies are females, beautiful females! I'm not worried about him cheating but I feel irrelevant, it might just be the lack of affection and intimacy but he's bonded with these women through basic and now in ait.
I guess I feel threatened.
I've always been a carefree person not really carrying what others think but since his absence I'm feeling like I'm falling behind and need to catch up. I feel like he's in a club I'm not a part of and don't understand.
We've always done everything together! :(
I need help, I don't want to bring it to him because it makes me look jealous and I want him to look at me like a confident woman who has her stuff together!


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Raye - posted on 06/16/2015




NEVER give out your personal e-mail address or phone number. You never know who might be on this forum pretending to be someone else and trying to prey off the weak and wounded.

The military doesn't allow much communication during training. Don't take it personally. You want to APPEAR to be a strong, confident woman, then BE a strong confident woman. Do not make yourself crazy by speculating on what COULD happen (but probably isn't) unless you have some evidence that something is going on. It's hard that you don't have the shared experience of this, as you might have with other things in your life. But couples should have some separate interests/experiences, and it will give you something new to talk about when he gets home.

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