Having twins...

Erin - posted on 01/20/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm a mother of 2 and about to expand my brood to 4 this coming August as I am expecting twins. I'm of course a little nervous about having two babies at the same time, but I'm honestly tired of hearing all the negative comments.. Like... You are going to be so busy, you will go crazy! Or.. Good luck with that... Honestly, how rude! I do have 2 children that I have raised on my own, and I know the hardships I will face. You can never totally be prepared for the journey I am about to take. But I refuse to take it in fear, or dread. I'm having these children because they are a blessing, not an inconvenience! So anyways, I'm just wondering.. How long were you able to work? What did you learn the most out of having twins? What advice you can pass along? Thanks in advance!


Sarah - posted on 01/20/2014




I don't have twins, but do day care and had twins for awhile. They r really fun! Enjoy them. It will be busy, crazy but also fun. I started watching them when they were 3 mos. old. Try to develop a schedule. Make a chart for each so u can keep track of who ate, how much, and when and also when u changed each diaper and if wet or dirty. U won't be able to meet every need right when they want u too......don't worry do what u can to calm them the best u can, but know that it is ok and u r teaching them patients :) finish what u need to with the one u r tending and then move onto the next. Have ur older two be helpers.....they will love it and do awesome. You Probably already know this and plan to do this, but each is their own individual person. It is fun to dress twins alike, but then it does not show the individual person. Instead of the same outfit on both of them at them same time do an outfit that complaints the other....or that is of each persons likes. Many people will say "the twins" instead of their names.

Lastly for all those that r critical turn their comments around and back on them. With doing day care going out with 5 little ones I get a lot of comments. When they say u r going to be busy....say that is the way I like it.....it makes life more fun that way. Put ur positive view back at them.


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Marsha - posted on 01/20/2014




Hello! I'm a mother of four!!! I have a 7 year old a 4 year old and 10 month old identical twin girls. All I can say is it definitely a wonderful blessing. I stressed out from the time I found out I was expecting twins. I was worried about how I would manage, how we could afford two at a time and their health (it seems like all you ever hear are awful horror stories about twins) but not this one!! I had no complications, refused bed rest(because let's face it, when you have older kids, bed rest does not exist). I carried them to 38 weeks and 3 days. Had them naturally and they were 7 lbs 4 oz and 7 lbs 10 oz. Very healthy girls. From the beginning, I pretty much was on my own. They were born in march so that gave me less than two months to get a routine in place before the other kids were out for the summer. Everything went a lot better than I thought it would. I'd have to say the hardest part in the beginning was lack of sleep. Every two hours, one woke up and about 10 min later the other was up. I had to manage feeding them by myself at the same time....wow! How fun!!! After a few days I got the hang of it and have been doing the same since. They would usually sleep at same time and wake up within a few minutes of each other. I have gained muscle in my arms from carrying them at the same time....in carriers for 7 months! And now i still carry them each on a hip when i have to. Friends call me "super mom" ha! Lol they just don't realize that I'm use to it...I have always done it simply because I had them on my own most of the time and have had to do it. BUT I will say...that when someone offers help in any way at all TAKE IT. But twins are really fun and actually in my opinion they are easier than a single baby! They occupy each other from early on. You will also see pretty early that their personalities differ. I think the hardest part is grocery shopping by myself!!! My husband works long hours and I don't have much help otherwise. Not only is it hard just to actually figure out how to get what you need and how to transport kids, but the worst part of shopping is being stopped! It started before I delivered... I would literally have been staring at me because I was HUGE, their jaws would drop and some would even make comments. I learned to grin and bare it. God bless the woman who told me I was beautiful at the mall the day I was walking and went n labor! Lol anyway....u will have people stop you many times in one single trip. Questions and comments.... are they twins?(duh?) Boy and a girl? (Ummmm....they are both in pink with pink bows!!!) I'll bet your hands are full!!! God bless you! How do you manage? And of course some are nosy and want all the details.... how far apart they were (mine 2 minutes), weight and all that. I've actually had a few conversations I have enjoyed tho...mostly with those who have had twins and tell their experience and say enjoy every moment your gonna have fun with them! Just remember take the good advice, ignore the bad. People always have something to say. And when in Walmart.... do like the Madagascar penguins say on the movie...."smile and wave!" (And keep walking or you will be there alllllllllllllllllllllllll day!) Lol most people are just curious and can't contain themselves. I mean, really, what can be more adorable than a cute baby? TWO cute babies!!! Hope I helped with my story! I'd love to help anyway I can!

Vanessa - posted on 01/20/2014




I don't have twins, but I can say good luck and you will be fine! And don't listen to people!

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