He has another baby 11 months older then my baby with another women

Mama Three - posted on 05/06/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm having a difficult time accepting he has a daughter 11 months before me son was born .i dated this guy for 1 1/2 before I got pregnate . I already had two kids and been raising them alone anyways me n my boyfriend broke up for 2 months ,when we got back together he told me he had sex with another girl I accepted it n moved in with him(I was happy he was honest)Shortly after we got engaged and moved in together ...I got pregnate after our son was born the girl he had slepted with during the break up contacted him telling him he is the father of a little girl who is 11 months old .it breaks my heart I feel betrayed and hurt .i know he didn't cheat in me but how do I get passed this ?


Raye - posted on 05/06/2015




You admit you were broken up and he didn't cheat. So... your man was irresponsible and didn't use adequate protection when he slept with the other girl. It happens a lot. And the girl should have notified him as soon as she found out she was pregnant, and she didn't. Which apparently also happens a lot. It's sucks. No one will argue that. And both of these are reasons that you might be upset. However, it's in the past and there's nothing that can be done to change it. He needs to man up and be a responsible parent to the other child. He also needs to be a responsible parent to your child together (and to your other two kids, if you stay together).

Why is it that you got pregnant when you aren't married? If you already have two kids, what is your behavior teaching them? Maybe before you throw stones you need to take a look at yourself and realize that people make mistakes. It's what happens afterward that counts. You, your BF, and his other baby-mama all need to start thinking about what's best for those kids.

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