Health visitor problems

Jodie - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My healthvisitor doesnt seem to like the way my partner and i are looking after out daughter and when i say to her i feel down and that i have days where i feel like im strugling and im really low she just says that im fine and ill get over it. My daughters almost 4 months now and for the whole 4 months ive been saying this and she just seems to ignor me and its really geting to me. I'm considering changing doctors so i get a new healthvisitor but i sort of trust my GP but i have the same problem with them they dont seem to listen to how im feeling and they say its my age and ill grow out of it and wont give me any help. It really upsets me and i dont really know what to do.My partner has even threatened to sue if they dont help me and so far it seems like (mainly cos of our age) they arent taking us seriously, it really upsets me. Does any one have any advice what i should do?

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Monika - posted on 01/13/2010

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Since you have free health care like we do in Canada I would start looking for a new doctor that will listen to you and is generally concerned about your health and well being. There are lots of bad doctors and bad health providers.



I was concerned about the immunization shots and my doctor sent us to a Pediatric Infectious Disease specialist so we learned more about them and the diseases they try and prevent. That's good health care, she didn't mock me she sent me somewhere to get more informed and have my concerns addressed.

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Sharon - posted on 01/13/2010

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1. its not exactly natural to feel "down" after having a baby. Its not the norm per se, but it is common enough to be well known.



2. its not harmonal either. Its HORMONAL



Only the most hideously ignorant GP would ignore a woman who says she is depressed or "feeling down". They should be investigating instantly.



In light of the new information = find a new a doctor. File a complaint with whoever it is that overseas your medical practitioners & whoever is in charge of the doctors' office (ie. hospital director, etc.)

Jodie - posted on 01/13/2010

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i think your right to be honest
thank you its helped me make my mind up
plus this way every one in the familys at the same docs
thank you very much x

Kat - posted on 01/13/2010

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It truly is natural to feel a bit down and even frustrated with a new baby ...Sometimes it helps to just take a break, enjoy a nice bath, or take a short drive uptown for a fancy coffee or some special treat while your partner takes care of the baby for a little while.
However, if you become so overwhelmed that you are unable to function , then PLEASE seek help from a professional who understands Postpartum Depression.
Unfortunatel most General Practitioners do not understand this condition...it is harmonal , and there are many really good treatments to help you through until it passes.

Jodie - posted on 01/13/2010

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we dont pay for it cos we live in the uk but i get where your coming from x

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2010

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some health vistors are plain disgraceful i would book an appointment to see a diffrent doctor to deal how ur feeling n then explain how u dnt get on wid ur health vistor.

Laura - posted on 01/13/2010

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Jodie,

I agree with Sharon. You are paying them for care that you are not receiving. If they GP is ignoring you as well, then they too are not doing their job. Would you pay for a Whopper if you had to go back to the kitchen to cook it and make it then serve yourself? If you hired a cleaning service but you had to do all the work would you continue to hire them? NO...so why is a doc different? They may have the degree but they are a service provider not an authority figure that you cannot get away from. I would then post a complaint with the health dept or something so that others don't go through the same thing.

Jodie - posted on 01/13/2010

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ive tryed telling her time and time again and she just seems to ignor me which doesnt help infact i feel as though it can make me worse x

Sharon - posted on 01/13/2010

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Don't tell us. Tell them.



Tell the health visitor that you are so unhappy with her lack of response or care that you have considered changing doctors to get a different health visitor.



You can also file a complaint with her supervisor . Discounting your depressive feelings is bullshit on her part. Whether you are young or old, you are susceptible to depression and everyone should pay some attention.



for some reason people seem to think that if you aren't laying in your bed covered in your own filth sobbing, then you aren't really depressed. Which is bull.



Tell her she needs to pay attention. If she ignores you... GET MAD and call her supervisor.

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