Abigail - posted on 01/18/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




its been almost 2 weeks that i've known im pregnant im 17 and haven't told anyone but my boyfriend and close friends, when i told my boyfriend (hes 20) he was so excited and was so positive but lately all that changed, it's hard to say but i feel that he wants me to have an abortion and that makes me so sad, i have cried about it because i feel that im too young to have a baby but i feel that is selfish of me to have an abortion. im so lost on what to do and need advice ASAP. im going to the docs monday morning to see how far i am and what not, thanks!


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Raye - posted on 01/19/2015




I had an abortion at 16 years old, and I don't regret it for one second (I'm 39 now). But what was right for me may not be right for you. Having a baby that young is hard, and you cannot expect the baby-daddy to make things any easier. But many women have done it with great success and have found motherhood very rewarding.

It's really a decision you have to make for yourself. Nobody else should force you to decide differently. See a counselor. Look at all your options before you decide, then go with your heart. Once you decide, don't second guess yourself.

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2015




You need to talk to your parents and a crisis pregnancy counselor. Find out what help is out there. What options you have. Often times people go through many different emotions. You need to sit down and sort through those emotions and figure out what is best for both you and this baby. There is also another option to consider too....adoption. again you need to talk to your parents and get connected with a birth parent counselor. Making a decision out of emotion before knowing all what is out there or even realistically looking at everything is being selfish.

Jennifer - posted on 01/18/2015




I understand, I had my first baby at 17. I was totally scared, I told my parents they were very disappointed. Quickly that changed, I hadn't ever considered abortion when I found out I was pregnant, that said I had friends that did take that route. My suggestion is to tell your parents and plan on the father not being in the picture. Get all the information before you make a decision. Consider the fact that there is so much help out there for single moms these days, well not ideal and not picture perfect as we all have in our minds I personally have never regretted my decision not one second. My opinion I'm 26 years old not so long ago, I was in your position.

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