Help after Miscarriage

Paula - posted on 07/22/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




I had a miscarriage at 9weeks at the end of June. I was handling it well for the first weeks following. Everyone including my husband was telling me that it was not ment to be and that there was probably something wrong with the pregnancy. I understand all of what there saying, but now I almost feel resentful of those comments which makes me feel selfish for feeling the way I do. It was my first miscarraige and I have my beautiful daughter. I feel almost guilty for feeling sad. Is this normal to feel this way?


Christy - posted on 07/30/2011




Heck yeah! And no one other than someone that has had a M/C can understand. I had one right after husband and I were "trying" to have a baby and I swear I thought I was married to a robot! Just take your emotions one day at a time and live your life for now. Bless you!


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Tyrae - posted on 07/22/2011




Completely normal. It is a grieving process, you just lost your baby whether it be only 9 weeks in utero. I have gone through 2 miscarriages before I had my daughter and for each of them I was absolutely distraught for a couple weeks afterwards. Do not feel guilty for feeling sad. Your family is trying to make you feel better by making it out as it's not your fault, and it truly wasn't that you had a miscarriage, but sometimes what they say can just make it worse. I know... hold in there. It will get easier. I still wonder what it would have been like if I hadn't had those miscarriages, would I be the mother that I am now. I cherish my daughter so much and I believe part of that is because I lost 2 babies before her. Hold on to your daughter, push through it, and eventually the pain and sadness will go away. I'm sorry for your loss and I send you lot's of virtual hugs.

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