Help! Do I turn in a senior in high school for having pics of my daughter?

Erica - posted on 04/29/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




6 months ago I found out my daughter sent a picture of herself (upper body). He showed the varsity team, i confronted him and his mother. He apparently deleted it. It was over....until a few days ago. I found out he still has it or says its her. Once again talked to the mom. This time she put all the blame on my daughter ( trust me, we both know it was a huge mistake) It got heated as she was then calling her....even my husband names. Anyway, as I have been to her friends he has also been asking them for pics, has even been showing a video of a girl "pleasing him"...very disturbing. Oh, and not to mention when she was 12, i saw a text of him asking her for pics of her boobs, luckily she wouldnt then.

As I am questioning how to handle this. Turning him into the police will result in him being arrested. ..he is 18. However, my daughter can get into trouble also for sending it. I want to talk to the school only because he has been showing kids pics of several girls and want him to get help....

What would you do? I used to be friends with the family until this all started.) :


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2013




Turn him in. But also, you need to teach your daughter about sex, and self respect.

Erica - posted on 04/29/2013




Thank yo. I dont care about our friendship. She was and is 14 when it was sent and he was 17 when he got it and showed everyone. Now he is saying he has it...and is now 18, all the girls are under age. Im sti so.disappointed in her and angry at him. He is sick!! And has been trying to get at her since she was 12 and he was 16.....

As they have deleted the pic and her face wasnt on the pic, there is no saying it was her. But now its going around that the pic they have is.

I'll have to see what an attorney can do, as his family doesnt take responsibility for anything, and wont its her fault (yes, but not the keeping and showing everyone part) and his uncle is a criminal defense attorney and already threatened my daughters innocence.....

Kristi - posted on 04/29/2013




How old is your daughter or how old were they when she sent the picture and when he distributed it? Do you know how old the girls are in the pictures and videos he is showing now? Can they be identified?

If you talk to the school and they find truth to your allegation, it won't matter what you want, they will have to report him to the police if the girls are minors. Quite frankly, I wouldn't give one rat's ass what the school said. If I KNEW an 18 year old was in possession of child pornography and was distributing it, I'd have already called the cops.

If you're unsure what to do because of what could happen to your daughter, call an attorney. Many offer free consultations or will at least answer a few questions over the phone. I would have a list prepared before you call, should you choose to do so. Your friendship with the boy's family is gone. Worrying about their reaction is a waste of time and energy, let it go.

It's beyond me why girls are still dumb enough to send naked or half naked pictures of themselves to anyone! It is never deleted. It has the potential to ruin a college scholarship, a college acceptance, a job offer...for crying out loud, girls are committing suicide over naked pictures of them being posted online. But, whatever...she who lives in a glass house should not throw stones.

Well, for what's it's worth, that's my opinion/advice. Good luck. I hope some good comes out of this some how. I will keep you in my prayers.

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