Help...feeling guilty

Aimee - posted on 11/29/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )




My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 children together. Our daughter is 7 and our son is 5. He has a 14 year old son from a previous relationship. My stepson lived with us from the time we got married when he was 3 until he was 8. He was acting out in school, got suspended from the bus in kindergarten for touching another boy's private parts. He also got in trouble in the classroom for rubbing a different boy's private parts under the table. We pried and pried and asked and asked and finally he told us an older boy in his mom's neighborhood molested him. My husband called the mother and told her and she said she would take care it, she never did anything. We got my stepson in therapy and tried to help. I eventually had my daughter and my husband and I fought and fought about my stepson's behavior and we separated on numerous occasions. One day while at my MIL's house my stepson pulled his pants down in front of cousins and that was the last straw. I said I was leaving and taking my daughter to protect her. He begged me not go and talked to my stepson's mother. She was happy to take him back, she had finally gotten her life back together and had another son by then. Fast forward to now and my stepson has been expelled for bringing weed to school, has a court date in January for stealing a car and is horribly mean to my kids when he comes to visit. We just found out yesterday they got kicked out of their house and are now living in a hotel. My stepson has not been to his alternative school in 3 weeks, he is suppose to start a new school on Monday. I am having waves of guilt about him and whether or not he should come to live with us. My mother was raped and molested as a child and I know the damage it can do to a person and the enormous amount time and work it took to make her better. I am the only person that can protect my kids from something like that from happening in my home. I NEED to protect my kids. I have been having waves of huge emotions since finding this out last night. I have said I would take my kids and move in with my parents and my stepson can live with my husband. My husband is totally against that on all parts. He doesn't want to lose 2 more kids. I just don't know what to do anymore.

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