Help! Going crazy clingy baby

Nicole - posted on 04/16/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




My baby is 8.5 mon old and for the past 5-6 weeks has became super clingy. He doesnt want to crawl around i got the exersaucer jumperoo walker toys you name it he wont let me put him down. As soon as i do he screams (crying) i admit durimg the day i do the cry it out method i have a 3 & 4 yr old old that i need to give attention to as well or cook snacks for. But unless hes in my arms hes crying hubby has tried to help but he wont take anyone else just wants me. My other two never had this problem. Im going crazy grocery trips in the car you name it if hes not in my arms hes screaming. Its becoming a problem though because now the neighbors are complaining one has called cps on me three times since the month starting. Im losing it. Ive tried walks in the park he wont do the stroller its frustrating. Then the past two weeks he stopped eating baby food period just wants to be bfed. I tried table food no luck. Any advice ? Btw no chance of being preggy


Maria - posted on 04/23/2013




hi.i have 7 mnth old girl.she is only on breastfeed .she was also super clingy till 6 was very hard 4 me 2 do any work when she was awake.but now thank God she like 2 play with toys by lying .n luv 2 watch dora 4 sometime.u also try 2 let play ur child with favourite wil b okey.act i never tried my self 2 let her play by lying around n seperate her 4m me..i used 2 held her all te time..but when i did try now she likes 2 play.

Amy - posted on 04/17/2013




Google separation anxiety in babies, it's pretty normal developmental stage.

Kristi - posted on 04/17/2013




That's right, let your child develop an attachment disorder by never showing him comfort. *eye roll*


I'm sorry, I don't know how to help you. Did CPS actually come to your home/apt.? Did you ask them for any advice or have you asked his pediatrician? The fact that he is now refusing food is somewhat alarming, at least to me, as I have never heard of that happening before.

Ok, just did a google search about breastfed babies only wanting mom. I didn't come up with any medical sites or advice on the first two pages, they were all different mom blogs or websites, etc. The general consensus was it is the baby's personality and generally a phase. The majority of moms said that this age (12 weeks-16, 17 months) baby's instincts tell them without you, they are dead and some have stronger instincts than others. Most of them said they preferred to give them the extra comfort and security while they could because they do grow out of it.

Obviously, like you, some of them have other kids and they also needed to shower (at least once a week! lol) so they did let the kids CIO. Another thing some moms did, especially moms who were going to have to go back to work, was hired someone (or were blessed with a devoted friend or family member who had the time and willingness to do it for free) to spend the day with mom and baby. First just visiting, following around during their routine, then that person would start playing and interacting more and more frequently. Mom started to leave for a few minutes here and there so to build up her child's trust that she would be coming back. I'm sure you can see how that would continue to progress until you could go out for a few hours or the day and so on. They ALL agreed it is trying and can be very difficult but try to remember it is just a phase and some kids are just more clingy than others.

That's probably like, "Gee, thanks for nothing." I'm sorry I couldn't find better information for you. Hopefully moms with real experience will answer you and give you better support and guidance. Good luck!


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Elinor Garcia - posted on 04/21/2013




Oh girl i know the feeling my 2 year old has always been super clingy and i just thought it was because i breastfed. But i think they just learn early what they can do. My prayers are with u.

Ashley - posted on 04/16/2013




omg i learned real quick n early u cant let your child get two attached (mine is 5 months. she knows when shes with me i barely pick her up. i guess its like trial and error start in the morning when baby wakes up . make babys bottle first, stack pillows so u lay baby upright to feed him so ur not physically holding him. change baby. try showing the baby a little tv. without being held and just stay motivated . my daugther doesnt get held to go to sleep i play with her hair till she falls alsleep. i did it i know u can do it to . hope i was a help at all . make sure baby has more daddy time and tummy time .

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