HELP! Grandma wants to be called Mama?!?

Whitney - posted on 03/13/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I emailed my boyfriend's parents a photo of our latest sonogram, knowing that they've been excitedly talking about their first grandchild. Of course I get the response that they can't wait until the baby gets here and then I read his stepmother's signature -- "Mama Flo".

I actually like his step-mom. We may not have a lot in common, but she helped raise my boyfriend and raised his sister very well. I would love to take a few cues from the parenting they used in their home. BUT, my child is not calling anyone else Mama, even if there's a name after it. I know my child will be able to differentiate who we are but I also know that a six month old has limited speech and that Flo part of the name won't stick. I won't think it's funny if my kid calls another person "Mama."

Am I just pregnant and hormonal or does anyone else see an issue here? I'd really like some feedback before I talk it over with her.


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Andrea - posted on 02/05/2014




When I first found out we were expecting our first, every one told me " baby will call me mama as they will see me more" Only because my husbands step-niece and a baby right before we found out and she dropped hers little on with her mom all the time, so they thought I would do that same.. However I have been with my kids since the day I found out I was found out I was pregnant with them.. So I got very upset and stopped seeing my husbands family for about a month. Then I sat down and talked in length with my mother in law { who really was a great person and we were very close She passed in 2009} who understood 100% my feelings...

With that being said I agree, with the mama thing... NO one is MAMA but me... They did not give birth to them nor did that go through the ups and downs I faced having my kids... Which I face most of them alone as my husband had to work so it was my responsibility to take care of what god gave.. If I was big enough to have sex and create life then I was big enough to take care and raise my kids..

I became a MAMA at 21 with a now 6 year old boy born 37 weeks 6lbs spent 4 days in the NICU because of feeding, temperature issues and bilirubin being at 21.5... He is now a happy healthy little boy.. I am proud to be is mom..

At 22 I gave birth to my little peanut and only princess who will be 5 next month.. She was born at 36 weeks at 3lbs 8oz with a birth defect called Gastroschisis { all of her insides where outside her body through a hole the size of a quarter } She spent 8 days waiting for surgery, was on a vent for 12 days, started feeding through a tube at 3 weeks and then a bottle at 4 weeks, at 5 weeks she had a spinal tap done, one blood transfusion, and many bathroom issues. Then at 7 weeks old she got to come home with Myself, Her Daddy and big brother { who was only 18 months old when she came home}

Last year at the Age of 26 I gave birth to my last little guy, I was blessed for him to be born at 38 weeks at 5lb 13.5oz with no NICU stay however it was short lived, He was 3 weeks old and back in the hospital do to RSV.. We spent last year from Feb. 9th to Feb. 14th in the Hospital with him on oxygen..

NOW with a little back ground on what my kids and I have been through I will be DAMNED if my mom or mother in law, Would ever get to be called MAMA... These I have no problem with NANA, GRAMMY, GRANDMA, GRAMMS ect....
Take care and best wishes... You are not alone.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/13/2013




I lived with my in laws for about a year and my toddler son started calling his grandma "momma" also. i was not cool with it. She of course was flattered by it, but understood why I was upset. She had him start calling her by her first name, and it ended up sounding different coming from a 2-3 year old. It has stuck and he is almost 7. I understand why you would be annoyed by this.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/13/2013




Mama Flo would be a good designation for a grandmother, actually...Or me-ma, or...

To me, there's a difference between Mama and Mom, Momma, Mommy. Mom, Momma, Mommy are "mom" names. Mama (usually pronounced maa maa in my area, or maa maw) is a very common "grandma" name.

My kids have also referred to their grandparents as Oma/Opa, Mema & Poppa, or (my personal favorite) G-mom.

But, I will say this: The more you allow yourself to be stressed about the small stuff, the harder your pregnancy will be! So...relax! Tell everyone that you'd like to come up with special grandparent names for everyone, and that they may not be the same as what other grandkids are calling them, but they'll be special names regardless.

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