Help! I am hurting

Carmen - posted on 06/08/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I was very close to my children and brought them up with a lot of effort as a single mom. Now they are having their own children and will not allow me to visit them, not even to experience the joy of my grandchildren´s birth. My granddaughter is 18 months and I´ve never kissed her. My daughter refuses phone calls and Skype. Now my son tells me I am only welcome for 10 days, 3 weeks after my grandson´s birth. Can somebody help me?

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Carmen - posted on 06/08/2013

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Thank you for caring Mónica.It´s been so difficult not being allowed to visit my first grandchild that I can´t take it if I´m not allowed close to the second. I just want to help, cook meals, help them achieve confidence and hold the baby in my arms. I am looking for short term rentals and there is nothing under 850 dollars a week. The airplane tickets are over 2000 USD. Food , transportation, etd. My son and his wife make over 300k, I am a retired secretary.

Monica - posted on 06/08/2013

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I wish it were easier for you. Do you get along with the spouses of your children?
It may just be that they are struggling too. The time at a birth is a private moment shared between Mom & Dad & the first few days with a newborn is an adjustment struggle. Personally, I would love to have someone there to help out but perhaps, the spouse doesn't feel that comfortable or maybe the other family is coming at that same time. If I lived far away & money was tight, I would want to make it efficient for me to be there. There isn't anything wrong with going after the baby is born. Can you not stay with them? If you can't, try to find a friend that you can stay with or locate a very inexpensive motel. You would only be sleeping there so it really doesn't need to be fancy.

Carmen - posted on 06/08/2013

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I was just informed by my son that I can either 1. be there when the baby is born or 2. stay at their house for 10 days, 2 weeks after the baby is born. I cannot do both. They live in the second most expensive city in the USA, hotels are over 100 dollars a night, and it´s a 20 hr trip for me to get there.

Kathan - posted on 06/08/2013

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You need to talk to your children and ask them why they won't allow you to visit. There's something behind the scenes. I wish you well and hope that it works out.

Monica - posted on 06/08/2013

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There is something missing to your story....what is the reason for your Children's attitude? Was there something that had happened to have them not want a relationship with you?

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