Help! I need to find middle ground between over the top birthday parties and sloppy parties

Corinne - posted on 06/01/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




When my daughter turned one I admit I went a little all out with it(all together dropped $650) and as a single young mom it was hard to pull off. I justified it as being my first baby's first birthday so I had a little right to get crazy with it. Now for her second party me and my husband are trying to shoot right in the middle of the crappy around the house type party and the craziness I did last year.
I'm expecting my second daughter a month before her birthday so we'll have more than one kid to think about and really don't have the money to blow like I did with my oldest. I've settled for WalMart cake, cheap bulk food while still good, and $60 for presents but my husband says house decorations are a waste of money. Am I trying too hard or am I right in wanting a nice looking party?


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Kaitlin - posted on 06/02/2012




Wow, I can't believe that much money! I could do so much with it!
For my boys, i make their own cakes and spend about two dollars, we didn't buy any gifts as they had tons coming in from family/guests, and we bought snacks in bulk- maybe we spent about 30 bucks?
I don't understand what you mean by a 'sloppy' party. I mean, they won't even remember it, decorations and gifts don't make a good party, it's the people and the fun- you can do games and silly things with them and they'll love it. Cut yourself a break and don't spend all that money on such waste!

Louise - posted on 06/02/2012




I have to say Joanna is right. I never did any sort of party for my kids until they were 4 and up. What is the point the child has no memory of it and has no clue what is going on. Save your money for your new born. I can tell you if you continue to do this your child will expect bigger and better each year. you really are making a rod for your own back here. Stop and think is this party for her or for you to look good. Stop now and save your money. You are going to have two babies soon how are you going to afford two parties a month apart each year?

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Little kids love balloons, birthday cakes, icecream and a game or two. All the fancy trimmings mean nothing to them and are done more to satisfy ourselves. Balloons and streamers are all you need to make your home look festive and they don't cost much at all.

Firebird - posted on 06/01/2012




$650 for a one year old's party? Wow. When my daughter turned one, our entire monthly rent was that much. Your daughter is turning two, she's not even going to remember this birthday, there's no logical reason to go overboard. Just get a small bag of balloons and a small banner that says "Happy Birthday" from the dollar store.

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