Help, im 35 weeks pregnant and my husband has needs! its personal but i need my girls advice, im feeling lost !

Leslie - posted on 05/01/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi , well im 35 weeks pregnant and my husband wants to have sex but i cnt ! well i can but i dnt want too, i feel fat and ugly plus my body looks weird lol. The truth is the last time we had sex was 6 weeks ago and i just did it , to get him off my back lol. Its because i felt so stupid having sex with him, i was thinking the whole time i must look so dumb lol and i felt bad. I hate how my body looks and how much weight i gained through out this pregnancy :( . I talked to my husband about how i feel, but he laughs at me and tells me how beautiful my body is, and he tells me your pregnant and I love you for carrying my little angel. But anyways I cnt see myself having sex again while im pregnant, i feel so silly and well being pregnant hasnt been easy for me. So what to do?? Is it bad to keep telling him no to sex??? I have needs too lol, but i dnt feel sexy at all !!! I just want to know , am I wrong? Any advice will help, any opnions too.. Thank you ...


Katherine - posted on 05/01/2012




I felt the same way. You feel all lopsided and heavy and you just don't feel like having sex. He should respect that. I felt like a weirdo too. Like I looked ridiculous. I totally feel you on this one. Just TELL him NO. It makes you feel bad. The end.

Liz - posted on 05/01/2012




Wow, you haven't had sex in 6 weeks and your husband isn't crawling on the ceiling yet?! Mine always tries to talk me into doing it before my 6 week postnatal appointment! Anyway, I think it is important to make time for your husband, but let him know that you need LOTS of encouragement and foreplay beforehand. Make sure to let him know how you feel. Hopefully, he will be understanding. I don't think you should be expected to perform as often as before your pregnancy. He definitely needs to understand that.

Stifler's - posted on 05/01/2012




I would take him wanting to have sex with you as a compliment. Some men are disgusted by pregnancy and get freaked out when the baby kicks them. Just saying.


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