Help! My 3-year-old won't stop banging his head on the wall!

Jessica - posted on 11/03/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 3-year-old son has been banging his head at night for as long as I can remember. He typically will sit up, and rock back and forth so that his head will bang into the headboard or the wall He does it up to 3 times a night, sometimes for an hour at a time!.

The Dr's kept telling me that he'll grow out of it. I try not to intervene (unless it's seems like it's going on for longer than normal) because I don't want him to use that as a method for trying to get out of going to sleep. But he's obviously not growing out of it any time soon.

Last night I went in his room because he had been banging for over an hour, and he was on all fours, smacking his head into the bed like a charging bull! I'm so worried that he's going to injure himself, or that this is a sign of a bigger problem. Has anyone else ever dealt with this? How can I help my son?

PS- It's not him doing it out of anger for having to go to bed or anything. It seems to be some sort of soothing mechanism for him. He's usually falling asleep when he's doing it. Unfortunately he still doesn't sleep through the night. So when he does wake up at night, he'll start banging to get himself back to sleep. Sometimes he'll hum along to the rhythm of his banging too. And it's LOUD when he does it. I was putting my older son on the bus one day, and I heard his banging from the bus stop 2 houses down! That's why I'm so concerned he might actually hurt himself :(


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Crystal - posted on 11/03/2012




My son is 4 and he bangs his head on the bed. He does not do it as much as he use to but he will even rock back and forth in his car seat making his head touch the seat. He only does it when he is tired and trying to go to sleep.

Lacye - posted on 11/03/2012




My daughter used to have the same problem. She would get mad and throw herself on the ground and purposely hit her head. She made the mistake of doing it on the concrete one day. Never did it again after she figured out that really hurt!

From the sounds of it, he's not hurting himself, it's just really annoying. This is just something that he's going to have to grow out of. Just keep in mind that he's going to do it one day and while it won't hurt enough to cause any damage, he's going to hit his head hard enough for him to really feel it and he's going to stop.

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