Help! Need advice!

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 7 yr old was put on some meds to help her control her bladder. She holds more pee than an average adult & leaks during the day when she laughs or coughs/pees the bed at night. Her father & I share joint custody. We swap out every other week & he now refuses to give her the meds. He thinks she doesn't need it. Since she has began this med she has had one accident. I don't know what to do. I hate the thought of her being on meds, but I also hate the thought of her not going to friends house when she's older bc she's scared of peeing in the bed. Her self esteem will be lower than low. I would much rather her be on meds now than to give her some type of mental detriment later. What do I do?


~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/24/2013




I would personally not put my own child on meds for this. I would encourage then to use the bathroom more frequently even if they don't feel like they have to go.

Many kids do not have proper bladder control until about 8 years old. Some take longer to develop the control. There is nothing wrong with that.


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Kristi - posted on 04/25/2013




One of daughter's half sisters had this problem. It was so frustrating for both of us. The doctor said her bladder just hadn't grown as quickly as some of the rest of her had. She was having accidents at school, too. She was (is) a skinny, "little" (20 y/o now) girl so she wore pull-ups at night. But, since she was still having full accidents at school and she was getting picked on, we decided to try the medication, too. She was 8. It helped a lot! She was only on it for about 6 months, total and by then her bladder "caught up" to the rest of her body and she stopped having accidents almost always. Once in awhile, if we let her have too much to drink after 7pm or forgot to make her try to use the restroom before bed and she slept really hard, she might have one but that was pretty rare.

It's a tough decision. We had the same concerns about sleepovers and self esteem issues, as well. I would suggest you and your ex talk with your daughter's pediatrician together, at the same time. That way everybody is on the same page and nothing gets lost in the translation and you can decide what's best for your daughter together.

Good luck! hugs!

Dove - posted on 04/24/2013




I agree with 'Little Miss'. I know you want to help your daughter and there is nothing wrong with that, but what she is doing can still be perfectly normal for her age range and I would not medicate at this time either.

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