Help please, i just discovered my 14 yr old daughter doing drugs and having sex.

Alyssa - posted on 08/30/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am a single parent of my 14 yr old daughter, and we have always (or at least i thought) had a very open relationship and she used to tell me everything. She developed physically a little early and she looks more like 18 than 14, but i had thought that the rest of her was still..i don't know, still 14? i hadnt dreamt of her having sex until she was 16 earliest. I have always strove to give her all the morals i grew up with and to respect her body. I waited until i was 18 and in love and she always says she wanted that too. Ok so being a single parent i work (i have to). i work 3 days a week as a nurse in the local ER, only 3 days but on those days she is by herself all day, i figured she can make her own supper 3 days a week. Last week i went into her room while she was at school to tidy up when my heart sank, her bed was COVERED in stains, i know they could be anything but my mind immediately went to the worst possible scenario. i called my frined and she told me to do some snooping. the next day when she was in the shower i read the texts on her phone, there were 'references' to drugs and sex but nothing concrete. I called in sick yesterday but didnt tell my daughter, i left the house and hid in the garage and tried to spy on her (her room can be seen from the garage). she came home from school a little later than she normally does when i'm home with 2 big boys who looked 18 but i pray were not. i say them enter her room and bring out a bong! i was upset, but i thought it could be worse. they shut the blinds and i waited (figuring thats all they would do), i planned to confront her after they left, i smoked some in high school so i wasnt too furious. I texted her phone after about 20 minutes telling her i would be home in about an hour (which was very early). I figured she would send them packing at this but after 30 minutes nobody had left. now kinda pissed i went to confront her, with or without company. and i wish so badly that i had not gone in, as i approached her room i heard the bed creaking loudly and muffled...noises. horrified i walked in and what i saw no mother should ever see. she was, in between both boys (men i found out now). and what made it truely monstrous was that she didnt even seem to care! they all looked up at me when the door opened, and the 2 guys kinda stopped, but she just kept on going! i was too shocked to move at first, and i saw and heard things i will never foget. after a minute i went up to the bathroom and cried for an hour, when i got out the men were gone. we didnt speak last night and she is in school now. please...what do i do?!?

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Alyssa - posted on 08/30/2012

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Thank you for the Support Dove, all those things shall be done definitely. 16 is the age of consent i believe, so i will be calling the police most likely after we talk today. and i already made her an appointment with a doctor, it appears we were thinking along the same lines. We do have after school programs but she is too old for them, i'm really at a loss for what to do with her when i'm at work, i simply cannot support us without the job and there is noway to have her supervised for free that i can think of at the moment, but i know you are right that she should not be left alone, based on last night i doubt my interruption will deter her from sex.

I can't make any real decisions until i talk to her, but i think a counselor is a good idea, though once again those things cost money. she walks home from school and she should have been back 15 minutes ago, though i assume she's simply not looking forward to coming home to speak with me. so i'll get some answers soon enough. I just HOPE she was safe, though stained sheets usually imply otherwise. I couldnt bare it if she got pregnant at 14. thank you again

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