Help with bedtime!!

Cassandra - posted on 01/02/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have 2 girls, ages 3 and 5. We have a bedtime routine...bath, brush hair and teeth, story then tuck in from daddy. Then they get up about 500 times. They share a room because they want to, and they really find comfort in having each other there. I am wondering how to get them to fall asleep before 9:30 when they go to bed at 8:30. My 5 y/o gets up at 7 to get ready for school and then I expect her to be tired the next evening but she's not. I have cut out naps for my 3 year old and she doesn't seem to be any extra tired either. I think I probably need to wear them out more but it's hard this time of year when we can't go outside. Any tips on how to get them to fall asleep at a decent time so our mornings aren't so terrible?


Renae - posted on 01/03/2011




They actually aren't taking longer than normal to go to sleep. Some kids just take an hour to fall asleep, anything from 20 to 60 minutes is normal (some lucky ones zonk out in 5 minutes, but that is much less common than taking half an hour). Have you tried the "walking them back without any communication" tactic? I would also give them something to play with or read in bed until they fall asleep, they may be getting up out of boredom - a lot of kids have a hard time lying still for that long waiting to fall asleep. Also try a rewards system for staying in bed.

In regards to wearing them out, your 3 year old may benefit from being physically worn out, however your 5 year old will likely become much more tired from extra intellectual activity - at that age working the brain wears them out more than working the body.

You may find your only solution is to put them to bed an hour earlier so that they fall asleep at 8.30. If they protest this and it makes things worse (or you are quite sure it will without even having to try it and see) you can adjust their bedtime forward by 15 minutes every week until you reach the desired time (provided your 5 year old cannot tell the time) and this will achieve your goal without making thing worse. Hope this helps.

Kara - posted on 01/02/2011




Well, I have 5 children under the age of 9yrs. I can assure you they still do have a time here or there someone pops out and says I have to pee or I need a drink. But heres how we worked it in our home. I made sure to answer all the problem before bed. Everyone pees', does there routine, takes a sip of water (so they're not thirsty but not pee) then they get tucked in and thats that. I do not entertain their wants when they get back up and I apply our consequences and I stay contistant. I think honestly no mater what a parent choose to do, light spanking, taking away toys or privledges, or time outs being consistant and loving is by far the secret. If everytime they say I have a tummy ache and you do the whole check down then they will know thats how they stay out of bed. What I do in those situations is check them IN their bed. For our nanny sometimes she had issues with bed so we came up with a chart. Everytime they stayed in bed and went with out crying they got a sticker and after 4 stickers a treat. (for little girls under the age of 5 we couldn't keep the prise away too long but it had to be long enough to work for it) That worked really well. I hope that wasn't too much. and hope it helps


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Cassandra - posted on 01/06/2011




I wish we could go outside to play, we live in Oregon. It mostly rains from Sept to May so this time of year its not an option. I feel like splitting them up into separate rooms would make things worse as they are a huge source of comfort for each other.

Louise - posted on 01/03/2011




I would bring their bedtime forward so that they still have the wind down time but will soon get bored and go to bed. If this continues then explain to them that they will have to have separate rooms so they get enough beauty sleep!

Katherine - posted on 01/02/2011




Try going to some mommy groups. Your library should have a lot planned too. A good place for mom groups is
Just take them outside for half an hour everyday. I don't know where you live, but if it's 30+ half an hour is good.
Put on some music and have them dance. It sounds like they really do need to be worn out.
Mine are 5 and almost 2. I know when they don't get out it's really hard to get them to bed.
Keep them up until 9 and then put them down. Mine go to bed at 7-7:30. Sometimes on rare occasions they stay up later.
I have tried to put them in the same room and that was just a big mistake. They played in there.
I think that may be your problem.....

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