Help with Rebellious Urinating

Angela - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a two year old little boy who's learning to potty train. He wants to do it, though he's not consistent about it. That's not an issue but when I've had him out of pants for one reason or another (just used the bathroom or out of diapers or training pants) then if he gets mad because he doesn't get what he wants, he'll pee on my carpet or hardwood floors.

Suggestions that don't include spanking? I've scolded him and put pants back on him immediately after, which he doesn't want, as a a punishment. We just moved and the flooring is in great shape so I'd hate to have to replace it because of a two year old's temperamental behavior. Thanks!


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Angela - posted on 04/02/2010




Oh my, Dawn! I couldn't help but laugh at the awful vision of your daughter being turned upside down. I can definitely see where that could work for a girl. Boys, not so much and it'd probably end up on my new couch. Hmm, I like the idea of a cold bath after he pees in defiance, especially since sometimes it does get on him.

Nancy, he'll use the bathroom (LOVES to) without issue and he'll get rewarded for that good behavior. I did think of the positive reinforcement but am I supposed to make a big deal of him NOT peeing on the carpet when he's just running around naked? I didn't think it would make much of a difference once he got mad since that's the cause of it.

Because it doesn't happen all the time, it's hard to know when to expect he'll do it. Sometimes he will have already gone to the bathroom so he'll stick out his belly and strain to get a little pee out. Otherwise, I've got three seconds tops before it's all over and done. He'll do it when he's wearing a diaper, too. Though I could care less then if he's mad and peeing with a diaper or Pull-Ups on. Not great when he's got on underwear, though. I did think about stopping potty training and not letting him have any free air time or big boy pants for a little while (days, week, more?) and seeing if that'd help.

Thanks guys. =O)

Nancy - posted on 04/02/2010




Use a reward system of tokens for whenever he toilets approprietly. If you need help in establishing a token system message me and I can help. When he toilets inapproprietly show him to the toilet and remind him that this is the proper place. Is he acting out and then urinating? If this is the case then perhaps nip the behavior in the bud and use a time out for the undesired behavior before it escalates into urination. If you dont have a designated location, perhaps a location near the restroom so that he can use it if the need comes accross, or perhaps in an area that is easy to clean in anticipation of the urination (maybe with a portable potty nearby?). I hope this helps. I have found that positive reinforcement for what is done right has been most effective.

Dawn - posted on 04/02/2010




Well...I had this issue with my daughter. She stopped the behavior after my husband turned her upside down while she was peeing (in defiance, not an accident) so that it got all over her and her dress. She was pretty horrified and it really only took the one time. Don't know if that method would work as well with a boy due to the differences in anatomy.

Another idea (which worked when my daughter wouldn't stop playing in her own poop and rubbing it into the carpet) is to clean him up with a cold bath--a warm bath is too much of a reward. That took only 3 times before she stopped the behavior.

Good luck!

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