Helping my toddler cope with her father not being around as much

G - posted on 04/21/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter is 2 years old was potty trained now she has been having accidents since her father told her he will not be in her life. She tells me he is mean that he doesn't want her she doesn't like him. I allow her to skype and call whenever she wants but now he doesn't pick up for her and it makes her throw tantrums screaming for him through the computer demanding he come home throwing the phone scratching at me. I sucked up my pride and told her father what she is doing and he said he can leave her a message but he wont talk with her she will be fine kids are tough. She just saw a video message and once she realized it was not him live she freaked and cried herself to sleep.
What I have done so far telling her daddy loves her and he is just busy right now.I tried making it fun for her and she looked at me like I was crazy refused to leave a return message. I have tried to distract her with toys or something else to do. So far it just makes her more upset. She keeps retreating into a corner and day dreaming. She has started to suck her thumb and act more like a baby. I have allowed her to sleep in my bed. I would really like to know anything else I can do to help her cope with this situation.


Shay - posted on 04/21/2014




This is such a sad and terrible situation for you and your daughter. As a mom, I can only imagine how hard it must be for you to see your child suffering like that. That being said, I was once in the same situation as your daughter. My father left me when I was 2 also. To be completely honest with you, I don't even remember him. I guess my advice would be that if he doesn't want to be in her life, then let him go and move on with your beautiful daughter. If possible, get her involved in some kind of class...mommy and me, tumbling/gymnastics, or dance. Keep her busy. It might take an adjustment period for her, but you have to keep her life moving in a positive direction. Take her to visit relatives more often. When she acts out like you described, don't punish her. Just hold her tight and let her know mommy loves her.

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