Hey, did any one notice a thread is gone?

Kate CP - posted on 02/06/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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THAT'S RIGHT!!! I deleted the thread "Am I a bad mother because I don't have a religion?" because people don't know how to read the guidelines for this community and continue to flag posts that DON'T violate the guidelines. CONGRATS, GIRLS!! You've annoyed the mods YET AGAIN!

PLEASE READ THE GUIDELINES PINNED AT THE TOP OF THIS FORUM. MY SANITY DEPENDS ON IT.

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Sandi - posted on 02/06/2010

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It might just be me or the day I've had but when the people who control the site are moaning about the same issue every day it brings the mood of the place down. I prefer to see quirky helpful comments & exciting new topics of the day. The users can't mirror threads yet the mods are. From your own mouths...this method isn't working, try another please.

I haven't flagged a single post but honestly you are dealing with women that are sleep deprived, hormonal and just out of whack as it is. You expect them to be rational about subjects that concern their own children where animal instincts kick in and they defend their territory at no cost of being penalized. Why would they think twice :/

Cassie - posted on 02/06/2010

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Actually Sandi, you will not see multiple threads from mods about not flagging posts. This is actually the first time that I have ever seen any mod create a thread about flagging other than the pinned thread at the top.

During a discussion within a thread, you will see the mods pop in and remind women not to flag just because they don't agree but that is their job. You have 8 mods trying to deal with a community of over 8 million members. Their jobs are tough and its completely volunteer. They have every right to create this post so that women can see how silly it is to flag a comment because they don't agree!

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Kelsey - posted on 02/06/2010

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I cant help but assume my comment was flagged quite a bit! I knew it would upset the very religious folks, but I was very careful as to not attack any group of people, just share my opinion based on my own experiences with over-religious people, and what it does to a kid being raised in some of those enviroments. Like Sharon said, you cant fix stupid. The people flagging posts probobly know the rules, just have an anger control issue or cant handle debate or somewhat offensive opinions. Even tonight, I was threatened to be flagged, and had never attacked! ANNOYING!!!

Iridescent - posted on 02/06/2010

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Flagging should be the same as the other tags down there - the name of who flagged it shows up when I get clicked for "Nice" and etc. But moving on...now that I know it doesn't work that way, maybe it would be fun to do at random! (No, not really.)

Katherine - posted on 02/06/2010

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***Welcome back riders, please hold on to the bars***



couldn't resist.

Katherine - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hence the reason we are working on it. People don't seem to read the pinned threads, let alone the comments or warnings from the mods. 8 million women. Think about it. Over 8 MILLION. A lot of people to redirect and keep happy. Hopefully we will see something soon to remedy this problem. In the mean time Happy Posting :)

Sandi - posted on 02/06/2010

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Cassie regardless of if it's pinned or not, it's still a thread is it not? I agree they have a huge job on their hands but that's why I suggested more mods to spread the load. I appriciate they are doing their best but they seem to be going in circles. Frustrated mods don't seem to be the answer. It takes all of a 1 second to hit that button in the heat of the moment without having to sit back and think it through by writing a reason. Here I was thinking I was being constructive in saying take away the button or get more mods.

Sandi - posted on 02/06/2010

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With some of the threads I've read lately I'm surprised no one has made one saying "shud I flag dis?"



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Sharon - posted on 02/06/2010

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LOL Heather - thats the point - I figure that would put 'flagging' out of the abilit of about 70% of the forum, rotfl.

Heather - posted on 02/06/2010

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but Sharon, that requires WAAAAAAAAAAY too much work and *gasp* thought! They'd much rather get their butthurt on and flag away! No need to actually enunciate what they disagree with!

People are just morons lately.

Jodi - posted on 02/06/2010

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Sandi, the site developers are working on it, but in the meantime, we are just asking people NOT to flag things just because they don't agree with it.

Sharon - posted on 02/06/2010

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I agree. Until they fix the flag button. They ought to remove it all together. This way people will be FORCED to copy & paste what they find to be offensive, explain WHY its offensive and PM it to a mod.

Sandi - posted on 02/06/2010

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How about getting more mods or removing the "flag inappropriate" button? You will spend less time complaining about moderating the forum and more time moderating it?



Most places have a facility where you highlight the offending article and PM it to "admin", the mods can read it right away and decide to take it further or just delete it. Any good?



~Sandi~

Jodi - posted on 02/06/2010

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Problem is, despite our attempt to educate, including a pinned thread, people STILL can't understand the difference between and opinion and a personal attack.

Jodi - posted on 02/06/2010

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That's it, the thread never got heated, not really. It wasn't very interesting either. What was happening was that people kept flagging all the posts. I had already locked the thread because it kept getting flagged, and only hours before Kate deleted it, I had to remove flags to so many posts from that thread it wasn't funny. So I was pissed too, and issued a warning in the thread that any more flagging and it would be deleted because I'd had enough!!

Krista - posted on 02/06/2010

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The thread wasn't even that heated, so I don't know why people were doing all this flagging. Most everybody was telling the OP that no, she didn't need religion in order to be a good mom. A few of them were telling her that even if she wasn't religious, she should still bring her kids up to know God, and then there was the odd post saying that religion is utter bollocks anyway. So I have NO idea why posts got flagged.

Isobel - posted on 02/06/2010

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well shoot...now I wish I had kept up with it...it sounds like it got interesting ;P

Charlene - posted on 02/06/2010

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Haha, well I'm sure it was difficult to be so nice with those evil faeries bashing your skull! I would have been a much weaker person and resorted to the nastier one. One of the perks of being a redhead. ;P

Kate CP - posted on 02/06/2010

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Charlene, I had a much MUCH nastier post prepared but calmer heads prevailed and I issues this one instead. :P

Charlene - posted on 02/06/2010

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It's too bad that certain people get offended because not everyone agrees with them and they resort to flagging. Way to ruin it for others. Maybe that was their goal though.

It's really a shame that you can't tell who is flagging, then you would be able to issue warnings to the culprits. It must be really annoying to have to scour a bunch of posts only to realize that there is nothing in there breaking the rules.

I think you have every right to be more than annoyed! :)

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