Hi, I am due to have another baby in 3 weeks and my 13 month old is quite cuddly. As I want to breast feed I am unsure how to occupy my snuggly boy while I am snuggling someone else. If anyone has any ideas I would be grateful as I don't wont to hurt his feelings and push him aside. I also don't want him climbing up on me and the baby.

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Eileen - posted on 02/17/2009

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My two girls are 16 months apart, and I worried about the same thing.  I put a "busy basket" of small, quiet toys and books, and snacks for my toddler and we three enjoyed snuggle time together.  She was facinated with the baby and enjoyed the cuddle time.  I, however, was often 'touched out' by the end of the day and needed to take a shower and a walk the moment my husband got home!  Enjoy!  The days are long, but the years are short.

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Hello, I have 3 (5, almost 3 and 7 months). With my girls I let them sit beside me and read to them while I am nursing. That way they don't feel like I have pushed them away for someone else. Also, I would include him as much as possible, by making him feel like he is a big boy. Give him little things he can do. Make him know that being a big boy is very special. You could also talk to him and let him know that the baby CAN"T do anything on his own.Good luck and I hope this helps! By the way, your little boy is adorable.

Joanne - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi, I would get him to sit beside you as you are feeding the new baby, and get him to help as much as he can - getting nappies, dummies/pacifiers etc. Be aware that you might get questions about feeding from him...



Congratulations and good luck



Jo xx

Penni-anne - posted on 02/17/2009

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I let them sit next to me and read a book to them while feeding the baby.

Corin - posted on 02/17/2009

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I would sugest that you allow your son to sit on your lap or beside you while you brestfeed.  Ask him to help you hold the baby's back or something of that nature so that he feels like he is a part.

Carri-Anne - posted on 02/17/2009

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I would recommend you put him down now and allow him to adjust before the new baby is born.  Try putting a stuffed toy with him instead of reaching to pick him up.  You will have plenty of cuddle time between feedings, as to not make him feel left out.  Also, you may want to consider that fact that he will be a big brother soon and will feel included if he gets to help you with something.  I have 4 children and all are close together.  You will also find that kids are never the same.  Where you have one that is a great cuddler, you may find that the next one only likes to be held when he/she feeds.  Good Luck!

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