hi ,please help my daughter is very diificult when it comes to eat,I have tried all types of vitamins sometimes she eats nicely but most of the time we fight just for her to eat.what can I DO??

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Oh, and one more thing: if we sit down to dinner and any of the kids choose not to eat, we don't allow them to come back after the fact and say they are hungry. Dinnertime is for eating. They know that if they choose not to eat the healthy food we've provided, the consequence is they will be hungry. (On those few occasions we'll let them have a banana or a piece of bread, but we WILL NOT make a separate meal.) Ultimately not only are you teaching good eating habits, but you're giving them a good look at how every choice has consequences :)

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The battle makes kids just want to dig their heels in more. When my middle girl (I have three kids) started getting "picky", we started telling her I was making super power foods. Then, I'd serve everyone as normal and we'd start eating and just talking about why the foods we had were so great. We'd say: "Oh, just try this. You know, if you eat this you'll run super fast." Or, "if you eat this you'll be able to read like a superstar faster than anyone!" What I learned is that kids not only want to see we eat the same things, but it they enjoy hearing how good foods make them better; they also like to feel like they have a choice.

It's true: she will eat when she's hungry so, even if you're doing this, don't force the matter. Just provide what you want her to eat and don't give alternatives if she chooses to forgo the meal. She'll get the hint if you stick to it - but, again, I think she'd also love to hear she can be SUPER by eating the right things. (We always make sure to say "If you choose to eat this you will be super healthy...." We instill they have a choice - and the right choices (i.e. what I've given them) make the difference.)

Megan - posted on 04/24/2009

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I am not sure if your are asking about vitamins or getting your little one to eat. If you are asking about vitamins. I give my little one Shaklee's infant/toddler powder vitamin/mineral. You mix is with their food or juice. I am really pleased with it. If you want more info on how/where to get it let me know. megan_richert@yahoo.com

Have a great day!

Megan

Laura - posted on 04/17/2009

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Keep her milk intake to meal time only, keep offering good and health food's to her.
Don't worry, this is just a stage she is going through .Don't fight over food

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Quoting Melissa:



Quoting Kathi:




Quoting Rebecca:

What helps is if they have a strict schedule. 8am breakfast, 11:30 lunch, 2:30 snack, 6 pm supper. Don't let her eat in between no matter what. Keep her to this. If she is snacking in between then she won't be hungry.








Sorry to have to disagree, but the APA actually recommends that children eat when they are hungry and not strictly when we want them to. Children, especially toddlers need to graze thoughout the day in order to keep up with their growth and metabolism. Being strict about meals can cause eating disorders as the child grows older since it causes a overly hungry child to overeat at mealtime. While I agree that sugary snacks and drinks should not be made available, a healthy assortment of foods should be offered throught the day whenever the child, again, especially a young child, is hungry.








Give your child simple choices (say 2 or 3 items) and if they want to eat the same thing everyday for a week, let them. If you are offering healthy choices, it really doesn't matter. Also, keep track of your childs elimination schedule. Sometimes a child that has not had a BM will not feel as hungry and refuse to eat until things have "passed" .LOL Then usually they will be very hungry. Remember that a children go through stages and will sometimes eat more (usually during a growth spurt or after an very active day) and sometimes eat less. Children are actually very in tune to their own needs and if we took our cues from them, we adults would probably have better eating habits as well!






 






haha and how old children are u talking about that should only eat when they are hungry? mine is 12 months and for at least another year will be on strict 4hrly feeds 8am 12pm 4pm and 8pm she has NEVER had demand feeds.









 Hi Melissa, from following your other posts I understand that your daughter has extraordinary circumstances and needs to eat on a schedule. I was speaking about children that do not have medical reasons that require them to be on a strict feeding routine. My children are 10 years old and 18 months old. They both eat when they are hungry. Fed on demand as babies, grazed as toddlers and my 10 year old, while now sits down to 3 meals a day, eats healthy snacks inbetween if he is hungry and we don't push him to overload at mealtime. All in all we have very healthy eaters. Hope this clears up what I was trying to say! Your daughter is a beauty!!!





 

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Quoting Kathi:



Quoting Rebecca:

What helps is if they have a strict schedule. 8am breakfast, 11:30 lunch, 2:30 snack, 6 pm supper. Don't let her eat in between no matter what. Keep her to this. If she is snacking in between then she won't be hungry.






Sorry to have to disagree, but the APA actually recommends that children eat when they are hungry and not strictly when we want them to. Children, especially toddlers need to graze thoughout the day in order to keep up with their growth and metabolism. Being strict about meals can cause eating disorders as the child grows older since it causes a overly hungry child to overeat at mealtime. While I agree that sugary snacks and drinks should not be made available, a healthy assortment of foods should be offered throught the day whenever the child, again, especially a young child, is hungry.






Give your child simple choices (say 2 or 3 items) and if they want to eat the same thing everyday for a week, let them. If you are offering healthy choices, it really doesn't matter. Also, keep track of your childs elimination schedule. Sometimes a child that has not had a BM will not feel as hungry and refuse to eat until things have "passed" .LOL Then usually they will be very hungry. Remember that a children go through stages and will sometimes eat more (usually during a growth spurt or after an very active day) and sometimes eat less. Children are actually very in tune to their own needs and if we took our cues from them, we adults would probably have better eating habits as well!






I agree with Kathi.  While I agree that teaching a schedule is good, I don't think it's something that has to be kept strictly.  I've always fed my 18 month old on demand when he was breast feeding and when I switched to formula.  Now, we have him on a simple schedule that is VERY flexible.  He has breakfast whenever he wakes up (between 6:30 - 8am).  We never wake him at a certain time.  Then, after he's been awake and active for about 3 hours, it's a piece of fruit, maybe some crackers for a snack.  About an hour after snack he takes a nap.  Then it's lunch.  About mid afternoon, another snack, this time usually more fruit and crackers with juice.  Then he eats dinner around 6ish when my husband gets home from work.  A sippy of milk shortly before bed and he's out like a light all night...usually in bed asleep by 8pm.  I just had a meeting with the nutritionist yesterday and she said this type of schedule for him is perfect.  Babies are so flexible and sometimes their needs one day are greater than they are the next.  When he's teething, sometimes he won't eat very much at all and that's ok. 



To address Angela's original question about how to get her daughter to eat?  I agree with what a lot of other moms have said.  Give her food and if she eats it, great.  If she doesn't, she won't starve.  Eventually, she will eat when she is hungry and it won't hurt her.  I learned the hard way when I was little about being picky.  My mom was no short order cook and I ate what she made for me or I didn't eat....that simple lol.  Good luck Angela!

Pat - posted on 04/14/2009

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I made sure my children always took a muti vitamin. I tired incorporating healthy food but it wasn't always with good reations. Try to encourage them to help get involved with the meal plans. Give them options to choose from, get them to help in what ever capacity while preparing a meal. I would cut the crust off bread and make shapes with sandwiches or better yet let them choose a cookie cutter and help them carve shapes. For a snack, apples with cinnamon. Make wheels out of diced carrots and use tooth picks to put them on the celery, put Cheeze-Whiz in the celery and add raisins for the people.  Children eat when they're hungry, they are grazers just make sure they are snacking on healthy choices. Their body will tell them what it needs, when and how much. Childrens appetite change as they have growth spirts. Don't try to force them to eat, they may end up not liking that food otr becoming over weight.

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Quoting Kathi:



Quoting Rebecca:

What helps is if they have a strict schedule. 8am breakfast, 11:30 lunch, 2:30 snack, 6 pm supper. Don't let her eat in between no matter what. Keep her to this. If she is snacking in between then she won't be hungry.






Sorry to have to disagree, but the APA actually recommends that children eat when they are hungry and not strictly when we want them to. Children, especially toddlers need to graze thoughout the day in order to keep up with their growth and metabolism. Being strict about meals can cause eating disorders as the child grows older since it causes a overly hungry child to overeat at mealtime. While I agree that sugary snacks and drinks should not be made available, a healthy assortment of foods should be offered throught the day whenever the child, again, especially a young child, is hungry.






Give your child simple choices (say 2 or 3 items) and if they want to eat the same thing everyday for a week, let them. If you are offering healthy choices, it really doesn't matter. Also, keep track of your childs elimination schedule. Sometimes a child that has not had a BM will not feel as hungry and refuse to eat until things have "passed" .LOL Then usually they will be very hungry. Remember that a children go through stages and will sometimes eat more (usually during a growth spurt or after an very active day) and sometimes eat less. Children are actually very in tune to their own needs and if we took our cues from them, we adults would probably have better eating habits as well!



 



haha and how old children are u talking about that should only eat when they are hungry? mine is 12 months and for at least another year will be on strict 4hrly feeds 8am 12pm 4pm and 8pm she has NEVER had demand feeds.





 

Tina - posted on 04/13/2009

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With my daughter I kept macaroni cooked up in the fridge, cherrios in the cupboard, and water water water on hand. She loves water and it keeps her hydrated. She loves the macaroni and loves the cherrios too! Those are pretty easy ways to get her to keep up the nutrition along with milk and cheese too! No JUNK! Grapes are also another one that you can keep around.
Bottom line is they will eat when they are hungry, don't let them walk all over you thinking that they can get out of eating dinner though. My daughter still ate with us even though she may have eaten something a little different it was still small portions and if she wanted more then she could have more. They will eat sometimes in excess of 5 times a day (as someone else put "grazing" all day). As long as they are getting the water, milk and things that are good for them they will do just fine.

Nikki - posted on 04/13/2009

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My daughter used be very picky would maybe eat a few bites or nothing at all. Or sometimes she would just chew and chew and chew and chew. I used to really stress that she wasn't getting enough to eat but when I mentioned it to the pediatrician he always just said she was fine. As long as she continues to grow I shouldn't worry too much. Sometimes if you let them eat multiple non structured meals through the day they seem to eat more. Maybe cut up some fruit or granola and leave it on the table and let her snack and graze. Someone once told me to think about her nutritional needs on like a weekly basis instead of on a daily basis because sometimes she'll really be into dairy or fruit or a vegi. I mean 5 fruits, 5 vegis, 4 grains, 3 dairy's ect. can really seem like too much for one day. Hope some of this helps.

Dorothy - posted on 04/13/2009

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im not one for schedules when it comes to kids. I have a 5 year old that wants to eat all the time. Shes growing and is very active who am i to say its not time for a snack. But one thing i say is that it does need to be a healthy one and ofcourse not 20 min befor supper. It has happend that she will not eat her supper and 10 min after the table is cleared shes hungery well then its time to microwave the supper plate or bring out some apples or carrots.when they know they wont get the pudding or cake for asnack they soon learn. and as long as there not filling up on junk eat as you wish. They go through growth sperts sometime they eat like a bird and next time they cant get enough. Thats my take on it anyway

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I agree with all these comments. Just make sure you only ever give her healthy choices. She won't let herself starve. Some children are amazing how they survive on so little, but they do. Don't worry.

Rachel - posted on 04/13/2009

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probably not the healthest of way but..... with my son for every veg he cleared he gain a sweet! chocolate button size of course! start with a tiny amount of veg and build up to a normal childs serving!

Onalee - posted on 04/13/2009

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I was watching a little girl who filled herself up on milk and then refused to eat. So, I gave her water instead. She liked the water just a little less than the milk, but she ate so very much more readily when she had only water and not milk.



I have a daughter who is still not a great eater, but like others have said, I just let her eat when she is hungry and NOT junk food. We keep fruits, veggies, and healthy snacks around to pick at. Grazing is healthier than big meals anyhow.

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Quoting Rebecca:

What helps is if they have a strict schedule. 8am breakfast, 11:30 lunch, 2:30 snack, 6 pm supper. Don't let her eat in between no matter what. Keep her to this. If she is snacking in between then she won't be hungry.



Sorry to have to disagree, but the APA actually recommends that children eat when they are hungry and not strictly when we want them to. Children, especially toddlers need to graze thoughout the day in order to keep up with their growth and metabolism. Being strict about meals can cause eating disorders as the child grows older since it causes a overly hungry child to overeat at mealtime. While I agree that sugary snacks and drinks should not be made available, a healthy assortment of foods should be offered throught the day whenever the child, again, especially a young child, is hungry.



Give your child simple choices (say 2 or 3 items) and if they want to eat the same thing everyday for a week, let them. If you are offering healthy choices, it really doesn't matter. Also, keep track of your childs elimination schedule. Sometimes a child that has not had a BM will not feel as hungry and refuse to eat until things have "passed" .LOL Then usually they will be very hungry. Remember that a children go through stages and will sometimes eat more (usually during a growth spurt or after an very active day) and sometimes eat less. Children are actually very in tune to their own needs and if we took our cues from them, we adults would probably have better eating habits as well!

Dianne - posted on 04/13/2009

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I had the same problems with my 4 year old.. It was so important because he was a preemie, but the doctors told me to stop worrying about it and he will eat when he gets hungry.  I feel terrible but at night he will want junk food and I offer him a sandwich.

Sandra - posted on 04/13/2009

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as long as she drinks a lot she will be fine , but watch out fo tiredness and anything that is not normal for her , my name is sandra mckenna , if u need help just ask ,if i can help i will

Sandra - posted on 04/13/2009

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just let her eat when she wants , i had the same propblem with my youngst ryan and i went to the doctors and that is what they said. is she drinking lots?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/13/2009

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it is a stage  that she is goi ng through all kids do and it is not harmful to her  just have healthy snacks around  finger foods things she likes not junk food but fruit  veggies with dip cheese and crakers ,peanut butter on celery raisons just relax she wont starve kids just  eat when they want

Rebecca - posted on 04/13/2009

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What helps is if they have a strict schedule. 8am breakfast, 11:30 lunch, 2:30 snack, 6 pm supper. Don't let her eat in between no matter what. Keep her to this. If she is snacking in between then she won't be hungry.

Rosalie - posted on 04/13/2009

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many parents have this problem.   A wise dietician once told me what is important is the sum of the food the child has had in an entire week.  This helped me not worry about one meal not eaten, or the fussiness of an entire day.  If on another day she had a carrots, peas, some meat for iron, etc. I could rest.  Sometimes kids have snacks or have drank alot and just aren't hungry.  Just like our pets who are given small amounts of food, our children's belly's aren't that big - about the size of her fist.



 



So my advice is look at the entire week, and go easy on yourself and your child making sure any snacks or drinks are healthy and small.

Lori - posted on 04/13/2009

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Don't force her to eat. She will eat when she is hungry. She will not starve and it will not hurt her. When she is hungry give her the choice of what YOU want her to eat NOT what she wants to eat.

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