High maintenance baby

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello! I have an almost 8 month old baby girl and since birth she's been extremely difficult, we have ruled out reflux and no other physical ailments... She is just so hard. Especially now when I put her down she cries and comes right back to me. And she won't let anyone else hold her-- even daddy! Of course when I'm gone she "settles" for him but if I'm home it's all me . I don't know what to do anymore. She doesn't really like being carried In the ergo either. I'm at my withs end? Tell me it'll get better and I'm not alone!!


Elfrieda - posted on 04/28/2013




That's hard. Remember that it's okay to let her cry if you need to do something. Try just 5 minutes at a time to start with. Tell her, "Mommy will take a shower/wash dishes/put away this laundry and you will stay here in the playpen/room with baby gate. I will be back very soon." And if you can do most of that within earshot or sight of her, so much the better. Sing as you work, it will keep you saner and she'll be able to hear that you are close by. She will cry, and it's okay. It will get better if you train her to get better.

I did the same with my first. He was colicky for the first few months, and then he was in the habit of being constantly held/entertained and he was very difficult. I didn't clue in about boundaries and it being okay if he wasn't super-happy all the time until he was about one year old. After a rough transition, life with him is much more pleasant. He's not clingy, but he's still a people person, so it's rare for him to play a long time by himself but he does it for 10-15 minutes at a time. (He's 3 now.) Try reading the blog "elevating childcare" by Janet Lansbury. It has helped us soooo much.

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