How can I let my friend know I no longer want to babysit her kids?

Chandelle - posted on 06/23/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have a very close friend that I have known since she was born. She has been going through a tough time for the past 7 years. She has 2 Irish twin boys aged 6 and 5. Last year she had asked me if I could watch her boys since she now has a stable job. I wanted to help her get on her feet since she was living in a terrible housing community. So I agreed that I would watch them as soon as she got on her feet as long as she provided me with food for her kids. It has been over a year!

I have been taking my son and 1 of her kids to school every morning and picking them up after school. I have 3 children of my own 3, 5, and 7. I am a stay at home mom and love it, until recently. Now I have no time at all!! It is becoming too overwhelming. Summer is here and now I have all 5 kids with me from 6am till 4pm. She is also slacking on providing food. When she brings food its mac n cheese and Cheetos! No fruit or veggies. I cant stand it, I don't feed my kids that stuff ever! This has been happening for over a year now people. Cheetos and mac and cheese!!! My husband and I have gone over our food budget. More recently she has not been bringing any food whatsoever for her boys.

So, yesterday she is sitting outside with me and tells me that since her boyfriend got a new job she wants to quit hers! Not like "hey, let me pay you for all the hard work you have done for me." Or offer to watch my kids so me and my husband can actually see each other!!! AGH!!!!

I love her but OMG!!! she is 27 and I am 33 and I used to love my life and now I cant stand it!!! HELP.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/23/2015




I would just be honest with her. It sounds like she is taking you for granted. Maybe she doesn't even realize she is doing it. Let her know that now that it is summer time, you want to have quality time with your children. Also that you are so glad that you could help out, but now it is time to find a full time day care or baby sitter. If she wants to continue having you watch the kids (if YOU want that and tell her exactly how many days per week) then you will need to be compensated.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/23/2015




Time to stop letting her walk all over you. Explain exactly what you said here.

Ev - posted on 06/23/2015




It is time to have a long chat about this and tell her that you can no longer do this for her.

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