how can i stop my baby screaming/crying every time i leave the room?


Regina - posted on 06/25/2013




Yes my lil girl is 11 months old and she cries n scream if I leave the room n if she can't see me and even if I in the room she stil stands in her crib and cries n screams help

User - posted on 02/27/2009




How old is your baby? My son went through a phase like that around 9 months. We found that playing lots of peek-a-boo from around corners helped up a lot. He started to understand we hadn't completely disappeared from the planet!

Catherine - posted on 02/27/2009




they get over it, don't get over emotional, make a big deal use same words phrases when you leave 'se ya later alligator.' make it short, sweet and simple and don't let them know you are feeling the brunt of the anxiety either. Get them involved with something before you leave etc etc it will pass it does creep back up from time to time but does pass

Carol - posted on 02/27/2009




i found when mine were young giving them a t-shirt or jumper to cuddle that had my perfume on worked a treat

Bethany - posted on 02/27/2009




Oh, my gosh! I hate that...Really the only thing I have found that works is to just let them cry, don't give in and go back and pick them up.

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Jennifer - posted on 02/27/2009




Hi Jaclyn,

Between 8 to 12 months (about) infants go through what's called "object permanence". Because they aren't able to reason they believe that if they cannot see you, you have dissapeared, gone forever. Try playing the peek a boo game and also hide and seek with favorite toys. You can help her learn things come back. You can also leave her sight, on purpose, but continue talking to her so she can hear you. Start with just a few seconds and gradually increase the time.


Tamara - posted on 02/27/2009




Babies don't have a sense of object permanence for quite some time. In their eyes, when you're gone, you're gone -forever-. They can't comprehend that you're right around the corner or will be back in a jiffy. What helped me was wearing my little one bunches in a sling and making sure she could always see me (yes, even in the shower). It reduced the pain quite a bit when I did have to leave her for some reason.

Don't fret. She'll be on to her next stage in development before you know it.

Jenny - posted on 02/27/2009




i started with putting on there favourite program/ filmand when they were ingrossed i left the room. also peek a poo gameshelped, and when they were only a few months old i would put them so they could see me in a diffrent room and if they cried they were left to cry for the time that i was gone they hav to learn and i would chat to them as if i was in the room asking if they wanted cheesy sand wich for lunch or a banana etc, and this helped because they could still hear me. also check the times when you decide to dash off to get something because if its nap time its going to be much harder for u to get them to sleep, u have gone once u might go again if they close there eyes.and always leave them with the favourite thing a dummy,blanket,teddy as this will help comfort them when u are gone hope this helps good luck.

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Ya I have to say my son went through the same thing, I couldnt even run down stairs to grab the mail. Or leave him in the car to walk over to the drivers side to ge in. but I just let him know that I was going to be right back, 5 min.( I was really only gone for 5 sec.) Most of the time he was still crying when I got back up. but when he realised that I wasnt gone forever he was ok with it, Just do what feels right for you and everything will fall into place.

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